AITA for telling another about an situation?
My husband of 13 years told me in the middle of intercourse that he was in love with another woman. he said he still loved me but he loved her too. I began to spiral and freak out, in that moment and over the next couple of weeks because he couldn’t explain why he loved her. only they had a deep connection that they developed over 3 weeks of talking, sending adult texts, snapchats and tick tocks.
after a 2 week period I begged him not to go to work as I was not in the correct headspace. so I looked up the other woman’s husband’s information to tell him that she was cheating on him. my ex told me that I was erratic and crazy for telling the other man of their relationship.
My ex and this woman work together in a small school in a small town. I told some people he was cheating on me, he’s mad that I left it at that. leading people to assume that the affair was physically when he swears they were never physically intimate. But only intimate over the phone.
however one night when I asked him if the phone might not be the same thing as being physically intimate, he told me it was. But he is mad at me for not clarifying to others that it was only a phone relationship, not a physical one. so am I the a\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\* for not telling others that. when I don’t fully believe they were not actually physically intimate with hugging, kissing or any of that?
this woman has six other kids and a husband who cares about her. she wanted to leave the relationship but because I told her that her husband was cheating now she’s unable to leave. no one will tell me how I ruined her plan. But they say I ruined it by telling. so am I the a\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\*?
our divorce was going to be amicable, until he found out that their HR is starting to catch on that they were having a relationship because he is her Superior. so now he is mad at me for potentially ruining his job and hers and their lives…..
NTA, you got your lick back, I’ll make him move out and get some type of protection. Ppl are dangerous when they feel they have nothing else to lose.
NTA – what a d-bag! Her husband had a right to know.
NTA you didn’t potentially ruin his career and job. Him having a relationship with a subordinate, and cheating on his wife did.
NTA. Cheaters seem to like making the non-cheater the bad guy and it’s always batshit.
NTA emotional cheating is still cheating and sometimes it’s even worse because sex sometimes can mean nothing to a man, but once there’s feelings involved it’s a whole different ball game.
This whole post was baffling. He told you he loved another woman while you two were having sex?! Who does that? Later you mention she can’t leave her husband, like she wanted to, because you told him she was cheating (at least I assume that’s what you were trying to say).
If this story is true, of course you’re N T A, but at present… everything written just seems off to me.
Yep.
sounds like AI almost.
HR starting to catch on means they were probably showing signs of affection on the job. Which is their fault for doing it. Him telling you this during intercourse is a mentally disturbing and worst way to tell you. Of course that would cause a spiraling. Telling the women’s husband was the right thing to do. But maybe not telling anyone else sense that’s personal private problems that shouldn’t be publicly shamed. You didn’t ruin her plans to leave. If she really wants to leave she would. You’re probably just the easiest person to blame right now for her not leaving which is why no one can explain to you why, because there is no explanation. Overall NTA. Sorry this happened to you.
NTA. I love it when cheaters say that you’re ruining their life. Like cheating on them didn’t ruin yours???
Weird how he’s the one that’s cheated, but YOU are the one who’s ruining THEIR lives. The audacity. And you don’t need to keep their secret – doing so only benefits them. NTA
NTA, if he can’t handle the thought of people knowing of the actions he chose to take, then he shouldn’t have taken those actions.
NTA. Doesn’t matter if they weren’t physical, he admitted to being in love with someone else and texting sexy things to each other, that to me is cheating. It’s not your fault he is in trouble at his work, he should have behaved himself.
Mmmmmmm small schools don’t have HR, also what do you mean HR was catching on? The school can’t do anything and wouldn’t care. There are a lot of relationships within schools