sorry if i cant spell very well i’m very tired i have not been able to sleep. i have a girlfriend for over a year and we are open relationship we have rules both have to agree with the partner. we love each other very much and very well do plan to marry one day. I currently am only with my girlfriend and she is with me and her boyfriend whom we will call J. i hate the fact i’m jealous but i cant help it i wish it was just us sometimes but i would never do that we both like it being open but i am jealous of her other boyfriend. I almost feel like the asshole for being jealous she doesn’t like the fact i’m jealous yes refuse to disapprove she feels as if i’m not expressing my emotions but the truth is J nice i i’m fine with them dating but i wish she was only mine sometimes but i know how she feels about that and love her to much for that and i date others as well and enjoy it. i really think i’m the ass hole she hasn’t told me so but i feel like im the idoit and the asshole. should i just get over it and say sorry and ask for forgivness
\[UPDATE\]- still very tired i have not slept in days please excuse my ass writing. i’ve read your comments and i feel bad for being in an open relationship and not being comfortable i plan on talking to my girlfriend i do not plan to break up with her i’m going to try and go to therapy and talk to her about this. let me know if you all want an update after her and i talk?
Another day another teenager wetdream post.
Well it seems pretty clear that this open relationship isn’t working out for you
YYA in this situation IMO because it doesn’t sound like she is doing anything you didn’t agree on. However, maybe you need to ask yourself if you’re actually ok with doing an open relationship at this point or if this is just because you don’t have anyone else right now. It’s tough for me to comprehend because I’m monogamous but again, if she’s playing by rules you both agreed on, she is not in the wrong.
So first of all, this reads like someone very, very young. It sounds like you may not be cut out for non-monogamy and that’s okay. Because of that, I’m gonna go with NAH, but with the potential for you to be the asshole. I would recommend talking with her about closing the relationship, but know that she may decline or she may choose the other guy over you. If you don’t have that convo and just let this fester, you’ll be an asshole to yourself. If you react badly to her saying no to closing the relationship, you will be the asshole. If you guys come to an understanding and do not close the relationship, but you remain jealous or continue to pressure her to close it, you’ll be the asshole.
But in the end, the best thing for you would just be to end it and walk away.
YTA for being in a relationship type you are not comfortable with.
heathens we all are, and not. don’t be where you are. when i asked my wife to marry me, i asked for every day of her life. she is still at my side. it’s monogamy. yta