Basically I was at the mall and this young man approached me complimenting my shoes (note: I’ve worked with special needs individuals so I’m used to the these types of interactions). Then he was talking about how my heels reminded him of the saints marching in / then we have a little chitter chatter) During this moment it flew right above my head he was doing any type of flirting and people starting staring. Then asked really loudly if I was free on valentines day, I said no I have a bf. And wished him a great day. But after that everyone who witnessed the interaction looked at me like I kicked a puppy for saying no. Am I the asshole??
NTA. He took his shot and missed. It happens. I’m sure people were rooting for him, but you’re not obligated to live your life to make them happy.
Did you even know this person? Even if you did, no one has to accept a date
No I didn’t know this man at all.
Nope. You don’t owe anyone dates
People can be upset when no one has been an AH. NTA. In no reasonable world are you TA.
NTA. People infantilize the disabled community SO MUCH and it’s so frustrating. We’re (I’m disabled in several different ways) just humans. He shot his shot, and he didn’t make it this time. You don’t have to treat him like a spoiled child and give him whatever he asks for.
NTA. Better than giving him false hope.
NTA. Please never apologise for making personal choices.
NTA Its always best to be direct with people with a disability and giving him a number and false hope would have honestly been so so so much worse. I have a friend with a child with downs. He was targeted by a girl double his age that was stealing his pension and leaving him with an empty account when they went out on “dates” thankfully my friend was onto what happened pretty quickly. Girl still managed to steal a few grand.
He asked you out – now you have to marry him.
NTA giving people false hope is not good.