My mother divorced my dad when I was 2 I’m 21 now. It always bothered me that I only had my father’s surname, but I never thought about changing it since I think it sound good. But I recently learned that the reason I have only his surname is beacaus he went behind my mom’s back when he was registering me.
I only wanted to add my mother’s name to the existing surname, but I recently learned he thinks it’s a funny thing he did.
WIBTA if I change my name to only have my mother’s name?
NTA
It’s your name – you can pick whatever you want. It sounds as though you don’t really have any relationship with him, so ask the more reason to get rid of it if you don’t like it.
NTA. Your name is *your* choice.
Whether a decision to keep or change a name is due to marriage, separation, issues with parents, transition, feeling closer to other family, or just because you’d like to be called d “Miss Christmas” or whatever, it’s **your** choice.
Sometimes other people have opinions about this, but *their* opinions are not *your* problem.
INFO: who is calling you TA?
edited to add judgment: NTA it’s your name, therefore it is your decision and yours alone
nope, go right ahead, change it to be a name you can be happy with and proud of, if his feelings are busted up over this, just remind him that you don’t need his permission to do anything, just like he didn’t have your mother’s.
You are an adult. You have every right to change your name if that is what you want.
NTA 100%. Do you have a good connection with your dad, then slightly YTA.. but if your love is with your mom – 100% NTA.
My mom basically raised me solo, and my relationship with my father is rocky to say the least…
NTA. As an adult you have the right to choose your own name. That’s all there is to it.
Your name, your choice, end of discussion and definitely NTA
You get to decide in adulthood what name you want.
If it’s dropping your dad’s surname in favor of another surname, that’s fine. An overwhelming part of the population does that upon marriage anyway. If it’s changing your name to “Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock”, there might be some questions, but still fine.
Either way, NTA.
My son changed his name from his dad’s family name to my family name. He was of age and made the decision himself. It’s YOUR name that you have to carry through this life. Change it to whatever YOU want the world calling you.
NTA. Youre an adult and this is your identity, not his punchline. The way he talks about it would push a lot of people to rethink keeping his name at all. Choosing your mother’s surname is a valid and meaningful choice. Do what brings you peace, not what preserves his ego
Not at all, but do it now, while you’re young and haven’t developed that many fiscal & business relationships.