AITA, I have a family member who often leaves me questioning myself. So, this is what happened: This family member farted in the car and I rolled down the window without saying anything. He accused me of being rude. He said I should have asked him to roll down his window. So, my question is, was it AH/ passive aggressive behavior?
NTA he knew he passed gas and intended to let you breath it. He’s the rude one.
NTA, doesn’t seem rude to me. I think farting in the car and getting mad at someone for not wanting to be subject to it is more rude than rolling a window down.
NTA – however, opening your window guaranteed that you’d suffer more as his gas was pulled over you.
You \*should\* have asked him to open his window…let him suffer, instead of you. 😉 lol
….so I’d have said “why is it rude of me to open my window when I want a little fresh air? If you want fresh air, open your window, too!”
Make them ADMIT they farted…
NTA-your family member is an asshole and is also the rude one. It is rude to fart in a car and not put down your own window.
He should have rolled down his own window without needing to be asked.
Should have told him that he should have asked if he could fart in the car
NTA
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NTA.
It’s hard to do, but try to meet their inane accusations with facts.
“It’s rude to fart and not say excuse me. I don’t want to deal with the smell.”
You aren’t going mad, stick with the facts.
NTA
No, it’s not passive aggressive behavior, the inside of the car was stinky so you rolled the window down to get some fresh air circulating. He’s TA for not rolling down his own window when/before farting.
Nta, I always open the window if someone farts when i’m driving (I have control of all 4, I open the one the person is sitting next to, not mine)
NTA. People should be able to fart in their homes and in front of their family (saying “excuse me”, of course), but if someone farts in the car, they should put down their own window.
NTA. Rolling down the window is a practical response to a smell, not an act of aggression. By staying silent, you actually spared him the embarrassment of a verbal call out, he is likely just projecting his own awkwardness onto you.
Now that’s the definition of gaslighting. The other guy farts and blames you. LOL!!!!
NTA
This is such a ridiculous question. NTA.
Look, is it passive aggressive to roll your window down because someone farted? I don’t think so. If you were staring at them and sighing and muttering about some people just don’t know how to behave… that’s passive aggressive. Rolling down the window is just about physical comfort in the face of something foul smelling.
Your family member expecting to be asked to roll his own window down because he farted is a weird form of attention seeking, honestly. I cannot see why you would ask him to roll his window down rather than roll your own down, other than weirdly ask him for some performative contrition. Asking him to do it is MORE passive aggressive than doing it yourself.