My wife (36F) is going on a work trip for a week and a half and asked if I (41M) wanted to go with her for the first few days while she’s with family. I love her family and would like to see everybody, and I booked my ticket to go with her for 5 days before returning home. We have 2 dogs, so we arranged for them to be taken care of as well and everything was looking good. One dog will be at our house with a dog sitter, and the other goes to a boarding place that she absolutely loves.
However, the weather forecast for home during my part of the trip just got updated to some pretty severe snow (up to 18") the day before I come home which is a pretty huge deal because we live in the south. Our city tends to effectively shut down if there’s ONE inch of snow. I can’t imagine what it will be like if we get even half of the expected amount. I worry that I won’t be able to get back home for several days if I leave, and while our dog sitter says that they don’t mind staying longer if that happens, I really don’t want to take that chance.
I would feel much more comfortable staying home with my dogs, and being able to take care of the house in the very likely event that it loses power because our grid is total dog shit. Last time we left during the winter, there was a bomb cyclone event that knocked out our heat and caused the internal temp to drop in the house to 29 degrees because the aux heat wouldn’t turn on. Plus, I’m really nervous about the dog that would be at the boarding place being stuck there for additional time.
I know that my wife needs to go on the trip, and I want her to go and enjoy her time. I, however, do not feel comfortable taking a risk like this. I don’t want to be stranded away from my home and my dogs and I feel like that’s exactly what’s going to happen.
I know she’s going to be EXTREMELY upset if I stay home, but in my head, it is the right thing to do. WIBTAH?
No, you would not be the AH. Any reasonable adult would do the same. Just let her know your concerns and that you’ve decided to stay back. Let her know you’re disappointed and float a trip to visit her family in a few months once the winter passes.
This his easy. Change the flight. Go 3 days instead of 5. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Go and Get back before the storm is expected to hit.
Also forecasts change. Especially after 5 days.