I (M18) joined an academic club in my academy, and managed to get elected to a position. Now, I was really active in this club, even made some projects happen in our academy successfully. However, I stopped attending 3 months in. I learned that the president of the club and her friend group (who happened to be my classmates in one of the class I’m taking) is sabotaging me, and spreading false stories about me. Apparently, the president is a friend of the academy’s director, and had talked to him into removing me in my position. I learned that they actually planned my impeachment almost two months before my actual impeachment, which honestly hurt me. Additionally, I am also part of another academic club, and in an important position as well. One month in on that club, they (club president and her friend group) talked to me into stepping down on my position on that club, which I complied to because I didn’t want to offend them (I didn’t know about their plan on impeaching me from my position yet at that time). Not only they isolated me whenever there’s club activities, they also made my old friend group turn their back on me by telling them overly exaggerated stories about some mistakes I did a year ago (which wasn’t really even that serious in the first place.) They also even started telling some instructors about me "not being active" when I’ve been trying so hard to reach out to them when there’s a problem with the club. Even when I attend classes with them, they make snide comments and even make fun of me whenever I’m doing a presentation, or just doing a recitation.
Now, I’ve been struggling mentally due to the isolation, and even attempted bullying, which made me lose motivation in attending any clubs I’ve joined. I even stopped joining any contests in my academy, and even lost focus on my own school performance. So, I just stopped coming to the academy alltogether. Now that they’ve successfully impeached me on the club, isolated me, and even ruined my reputation, AITA for suddenly disappearing on my club?
So you stopped attending because you heard a rumor they were going to throw you out?
Sorry kiddo but this reads as really immature. YTA. Time to man up a little. Keep your commitments. Don’t get side tracked by what other people say, positive or negative. You joined, you made a commitment and then you were elected to a post. It’s better to show up than hide.
Good luck!
oh no, i forgot to mention that part! thanks for asking this. actually, it wasn’t a rumor, there are proof of conversations she had with her friends talking about their plan which was sent to me by a mutual friend, who was worried that I stopped attending classes (she’s not their friends anymore though). though i also think that what i did was immature, so I’ll do my best to not get swayed by other’s words in the future TT
So…none of it actually happened? And you dropped out instead of confronting the people involved?
if you meant the “impeachment plan” that they had, it did happen. I was spoke to by one of the prof eventually, which finalized my removal from my position. And yes, at first, I didn’t confront any of them, but we did have a conversation about it months after the situation happened. I was really out of it at that time, both mentally and emotionally so I couldn’t really come up with what to do, so instead, I just stopped doing anything at all (which, now that I’ve been taking therapy, was really immature of me at that time)
Ok, thanks for clarifying. I hope things improve for you.
I’m wondering what the *’not so big deal’* thing you did is?
Yes…this is the answer.
However…I can’t help but feel like this was written to mirror something actually going on in ‘real life’? I don’t know, after reading it I feel like I fell for some troll post or something…like a kid trying to write a screenplay? lol
well, I’ve transferred in this academy last year so I wasn’t really that close to anyone, and I got into a fight with this one guy because we had a misunderstanding (which was eventually settled afterwards, we’re now in good terms with each other). I found out that it was that story they’re spreading, because an ex-friend of mine confronted me about that, which surprised me because no one really knew about that except those people, because they were an old friend of the guy i got to a fight with
And what was the misunderstanding or disagreement about?
You being elusive about what exactly happened is confusing. ‘Not even that serious’ is incredibly subjective, since the root of the issue here seems to be this disagreement.
Okay so that’s really my fault for not adding that in, sorry. The reason why we had a misunderstanding at that time was because there was a project which was worth half of my grade, but this guy was really not doing anything because he was my partner for that project, so I was really pissed at him at that time and snapped at him at some point (which led to our fight). But we had a talk about that a week after the project was done (I managed to make him do his part in the end) and he told me the reason why he wasn’t helping me out on that project. But since he was an old friend of those who had spread rumors about me, they probably had a really bad impression of me at that moment.
There is never an excuse for bullying, and it’s also understandable that they have the perspective of you being difficult to work with.
Outside of that I think ESH for not doing the due diligence of defending yourself, and leaving your commitments based on hearsay. You should have made an appointment with administration to have a conversation on the topic.