i’ve had a falling out with my friend ( female )and yes i can see her oppinion but at the same time i want to know whether i am out of order or if anyone else has been in my situation.
We had a girls night out recently, just 4 of us and the plan was to go to a bar for a meal and drinks and then for her to bump into a guy and his friends that she has been messaging on Tindr to move onto another bar.
We were all dressed nicely as we were out in town. My dress however was very tight and because of this i made the on the spot decision to leave my knickers off as to not show any VPL. i was not planning on flashing anyone or trying to get attention. i purely wanted a smooth look to the back of the dress. VPL can ruin a lovely dress
My friend noticed when we were out and had a huge go at me for not wearing knickers around her when we had planned to meet this guy she was interested in. Saying that i was being completely inappropriate.
For context, i was not interested in him, had no plans to flirt with anyone and purely did it for asthetic purposes. However, she thinks that i did it to upstage her with this guy even though i clearly didnt flash or had no plans to and we have had a falling out. is she in the right here?
NTA, going or not goi commando is nobody else‘s business. Your knickers weren’t showing but your friends insecurities were.
INFO: how in the world did she “notice” that you weren’t wearing them?
Came here to say this. If the friends were able to notice this then OP wasn’t as modest as they are trying to make themselves out to be.
She noticed the back of the dress was completely free of VPL and asked me
Unless the dress is literally painted on, you should be able to wear a properly fitting thong without showing VPL.
I honestly think thongs can be uncomfortable sometimes and it’s entirely possible OP just doesn’t own any
No. You can see the outline of the top of a thong. Especially if someone bends over or is sitting on a stool.
If you get the right kind of thong in the correct size (i.e., not too small), it won’t be visible unless your dress is basically see-through. But based on the photos online, it looks like OP’s dress probably was virtually see through at the back with any kind of light (the front is ruched so might give more coverage). So thong or not, everyone probably was seeing OP’s whole ass the entire night.
You can tell even in a long tight-fitting skirt. It’s called a “visible panty line” for a reason. Personally I don’t care that you can just about see the line of my underpants in a tight skirt or dress.
NTA. Your friend is massively insecure if she thinks no visible panty line is enough to entice a guy away from her. This is a her problem.
is this just a weird kink post? no way your friend immediately was like “you don’t have underwear on, i can tell!”, unless your genitals were out
Why are you acting like it’s so difficult to tell when someone isn’t wearing underwear through a very tight dress?
I do have to stare at my girlfriend’s butt intensively to find them though… This woman’s feiend is a bit insecure
Idk not seeing any line sof underwear wouldn’t make me “oh she’s not wearing any” but more “ohh what underwear is that that has no lines. Incredible” but I wouldn’t say anything put loud because other peoples underwear or lack of underwear is none of my business unless I literally see their genitals without my permission
Wait, how did your friend notice? Was it super obvious you had no knickers on? Surely that’s worse than VPL if it’s that obvious??