so i have this best mate
thats been acting off recently.
i introduced her to my girlfriend recently
and she was acting like shes
known her for years, following her
around the shop, pulling her hood down and clipping things to her hair; generally being playful.
I went and also got my septum done
and asked her opinion first and
she said it wouldn’t suit me and
had this face on her when i got it
done. she also goes to our friend and expects
him to sort it and got mad when i told her
to stop going to him and say it to me
if she has a problem with something ive done
My girlfriend seems to have
a bad feeling about her and
doesn’t like how she acts and talks to me.
She starts drama and acts victim and wants us to back her when she is also in the wrong, she also talks about me behind my back apparently and thinks I won’t know. She has a tantrum everytime i do something but if someone else did the same thing she brushes it off and pretends it didn’t happen. If I do something that bothers her she goes off but when she does it to me she acts like its all fine.
I also used to have red hair and she said it was copying her. Mind you she didn’t have red hair. I have tried to talk about how I feel to her and we did but now she’s still doing everything I addressed. I feel as if she gets mad whenever I bring up something that bothers me.
Am I the ass for being pissed ?
NTA at all, she sounds jealous and low key obsessed with being the “main character” in your life.
You already tried talking to her like an adult and she ignored it, so you’re allowed to be pissed and you’re allowed to pull back.
I’d start creating distance and stop telling her stuff you know she’ll twist or run to other people with. Your girlfriend’s gut is usually worth listening to here.
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YTA. your friend may be playing up for attention, but your reaction is exaggerated & inappropriate given friendship dynamics are complex & can change over time. it seems like you need to communicate openly about your concerns and find a resolution together instead of holding grudges or assuming malintent
I have communicated to her yet she does not listen to my concerns.