she isnt getting any education at the moment, and my relatives are VERY mad about this. we’ve tried tons of programs, and meds, but nothing we try will work. if she trys to do any school work she starts crying and melting down. my parents both hate me for this, and i will never ever hear the end of it.
Very soft YTA. Some kids simply can’t handle normal school and that’s fine, but you need to find her an alternative school that meets her needs. You’re going to put her at a massive disadvantage later on in life otherwise
How old is said daughter? How often has crying gotten her what she’s wanted?
INFO How old is your daughter? Does she have a diagnosis? Have you tried online or alternative schools? Are you going to home school her?
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So what’s your plan? Kids need an education, so depending on age you need to get them in therapy, and have frank conversations about what’s triggering her?
has your daughter been taken to any kind of mental health or psychological professional? this isn’t normal but just taking her out of school with no plan for her education isn’t okay.
Have you found a therapist for her yet? Avoiding stress is not an answer. Life is stressful, how is she going to be able to handle life if she doesn’t learn to deal with stress? Your duty as a parent is to ensure that she is prepared for being an adult one day and handling life.
>she isnt getting any education
YTA to your daughters future.
YTA- you really needed to plan alternatives BEFORE taking your kid out of school. You need to be working with a psychologist and a paediatrician to figure out why this is so difficult for her, and working with them to figure out how she is going to learn. Simply removing her from school with no alternative plan is unhelpful and is setting her up for failure later in life.
Yes, YTA. You need to make her go to school so that she “tries”, instead of “trys”.
I’m not going to give a judgment, because your situation is not really an AITA question and is above Reddit’s pay grade.
It requires expert advice. What that advice will be depends on many things, not least your daughter’s age (the advice for a 17yo would be very different from the advice they’d give for a 7yo), and the reasons why she does not want to go to school.
You say you’ve tried many things. For your daughter’s sake, you need to keep trying.
Whatever you end up doing must be guided by expert advice and must be in your daughter’s best interests.
“*my parents both hate me for this, and i will never ever hear the end of it*”
Your parents’ opinion doesn’t matter. You need to do what’s best for your daughter. If you have to go no contact with your parents to avoid listening to them, so be it.
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Kinda missing any information at all.
Does your daughter have any medical/neurological/psychiatric conditions?
Are you planning in having her treated about it?
Do you plan to re-insert her in education when you find out how?
Soft YTA. You need to be working towards a solid plan to get her back to school. You need to be working with the school/her paediatrician/whatever supports you have and make it very clear to her that every day she is not at school, she is working towards getting back to school. Especially don’t let her be on devices or screens all day. If they become too contentious take them away all together. She will get there in the end but you have to work hard at it. ‘It’s too stressful’ is the wrong reason to not have her in school. Saying it’s too stressful is giving up on her.
Info: How old are you? How old is your daughter? What diagnosis(s) does your daughter have that she’s done tons of programs, tried meds? Why does she meltdown doing schoolwork? Have you talked to school officials?
“I will never hear the end of this”
Sounds like you have a pretty piss poor attitude about this.
You’re folks opinion (even thought they are right) is irrelevent.
Engage with a professional to find out what’s going on with your child.
Get off reddit and do some fucking parenting.