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i reported someone a while back for cheating on an exam for a sophmore year class, and somehow she figured out it was me. she dmed me and told me they got disowned by their parents over it and now they have to pay their own tuition. she said i “ruined their life”. i think they were able to find out through the academic integrity office because the accused are allowed to see details of their referral.
it’s not like i got anything out of this. i didn’t get a better grade or reward. there are no curves. but i didn’t expect it to blow up like this. i thought they’d maybe get a zero or have to retake the exam.
did i do the right thing or should i have just stayed quiet? am i in the wrong?
edit: i go to a prestigious private school. after doing some research i found out we have a zero-tolerance policy for academic dishonesty. the punishment is failure and suspension for a semester. they also mark your transcript.
NTA
You didn’t ruin their life. They ruined their own when they decided to cheat.
NTA. They ruined their life by cheating. They need to learn that they will always be consequences for their actions. You did not force them to cheat.
Don’t blame yourself for the consequences of their action. Its all them.
NTA. They cheated, they got caught, they ruined “their life” all on their own. But it’s easier to blame you than accept the consequences for their bad choice.
NTA. THEY ruined their life. Can’t do the time, don’t do the crime.
NTA, play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Maybe paying for their own tuition will teach them to appreciate the value of actually learning in college instead of cheating through it.
They cheated. They got caught. Blaming others is the MO of a cheater. NTA
You did the right thing, consider reporting the threatening text to school officials. The cheater may have guessed that you were the one who told.
NTA. I’d deny it was me, but… if you’re gonna cheat, you’ve gotta be willing to pay the price.
NTA. They ruined their own life by cheating. The kind of person who cheats is also the kind of person who won’t take accountability for their mistakes, so rather than acknowledging that they did this to themself, and they had complete control over their choice to cheat and risk being caught, they’d prefer to pretend you’re the problem. That means they don’t have to rethink their values and regret their actions and actually try to be better. Same kind of lazy selfishness that led them to cheat instead of making an honest effort in the first place.
Every university and college I know of has a code of conduct about cheating and perjury. All incoming students have to sign something acknowledging such policies.
If the cheating student was reported – it’s ALL on them. It’s part of adulting, taking ownership of your behavior and they obviously haven’t gotten that lesson down yet either – because it isn’t THEIR fault they cheated, it’s your fault they got caught.
My eyes are rolling so far back I can’t even see through that logic chain.
NTA
NTA but omg there should be a witness protection program?? like who is ratting u out like this…
NTA— and as a professor I appreciate it. It’s hard enough to build fair classrooms in the AI era. But this person is correct; these records should be de-identified / redacted to prevent retaliation. This is a student safety issue, because of the potential for a situation where said punished student decides to violently retaliate against you instead of “just” harassing you.
You should tell your university officials what happened, and file anything like a grievance they offer for them not de-identifying you enough by redacting documentation. If it escalates at all to the point where you fear any kind of violent or criminal retaliation from the cheater, you should also file a report with campus security and speak to your ombudsman about the process (and file a report with local police if any serious threat). You may want to talk to your ombudsman and campus security about this regardless, especially since you didn’t say the whole details of message. I’m sorry this happened.
ETA: the ombudsman is a great first stop because they are informal and can help you understand policies and procedures and what exactly would happen if you take a certain step; for instance, they could explain what would happen if you involved security before you do something like involve campus security.
NTA – You didn’t make them cheat that was there call.
And all the people saying you should have minded your own business are themselves being assholes. It is your moral and academic responsibly to report cheating. (I’m sure your uni code says as such under the academic integrity section. )
Nta. They’re the ones who did something wrong. They’re just mad they got caught. They ruined their life. Not you.
Actually I’m very concerned they were able to find you out because witnesses SHOULDN’T be disclosed unless there’s legal proceedings BECAUSE of retaliation. I would contact someone higher up to actually confirm that they’re just able to tell people things like that or if someone violated a confidentiality clause. I would not be surprised a cheater snuck around and did “illegal” things to find out it was you.
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