I (35F) have a sister (39F) who makes a pretty good living for herself. Her and her husband are both business owners make a lot of money together.
A few weekends ago, her and I were hanging out with our kids, and we went to a restaurant before going home. The bill already came up to $150+, but she insisted on paying. On that bill, she tipped like 35%. It made me realize that wherever we go anywhere that requires service she always tips a lot more than she should.
I told her that she didn’t have to tip that much, and she said it was no big deal. I told her she could have saved almost 30 dollars if she had tipped a regular 20%. And the service wasn’t anything stellar. She then asked me why I had an issue with it, in an annoyed way, and when I told her I didn’t have an issue I was just pointing out her tipping habits were kind of… weird. she just stopped the conversation there. It was kind of awkward for a little bit between us for about half an hour after that, but this is something of the past so it doesnt really matter now.
Was i the AH in this situation though?
YTA. Why is it any of your business how much she tips wait staff?
YTA. Her money and how she spends it are none of your business.
YTA. It’s her money, she can use it how she wants. If it’s your money, you can decide what you want to do.
YTA. If you aren’t paying or tipping it’s really none of your business. Sometimes I like to leave big tips because I know it could make someone’s day. I used to be in the service industry and it was always really awesome when someone tipped more than the standard. If she’s able to do it, what is the issue in that ?
YTA. She makes good money, she can tip as much as she wants. Mind your own business.
YTA and sound like someone who doesn’t tip well.
YTA. The only valid reason to bring up her tipping is if it is too low. It’s her money, she can over tip if she wants to.
YTA
Just cause you’re cheap/broke doesn’t mean she is. She’s allowed to tip however much she wants if she can afford to without making a dent in her wallet.
Was she using your money to tip with?
No.
Then how is it in any way your concern? YTA.
As for your opinion about leaving a generous tip being “weird”…
I guess you’ve never worked in the service industry where you get paid a little for putting up with a lot. I don’t think your sister is anything but thoughtful and fair. Kudos to her.
YTA I can’t imagine seeing someone else blessing peoples days and confronting them about it, what’s wrong with you?
YTA. You judging someone for wanting to do something nice for people that probably aren’t making living wages is WAY MORE ODD. Mind your own business. This comes across as nosy, jealous, and judgmental.
YTA – it’s a tip for a reason, because it’s discretionary. She can spend as much as she wants. It’s actually great that she’s well off enough and helps out people that need the money more than she does. It’s also great for her because it’s been statistically shown that people that give generously are happier and by tipping well she will also receive better service (especially in cases as a repeat customer). It’s really a win-win situation all around.
YTA It isn’t your money. Butt out. You seem like you probably are a *joy* to wait on. So you 100% should tip more.