Last night my mother took my watch and asked my little brother to wear it so she can figure the size of the watch she should buy for him and when i saw my face immediately went kinda awkward.
My mother asked what was wrong and i said she should have asked me before giving him my watch and also I’m also a bit particular about things ppl touched. Then she started to go on and on about how its just wearing my watch and started to talk about ‘the days i was easy going and not selfish’ like hello???? This is called setting boundaries. I have boundaries and i want it to be respected!!
Also i have my reasons for particularly not wanting my little brother to wear my stuff but i just didn’t want to say it cos I didn’t want to hurt his feelings! I wouldn’t say i have some godly hygiene level but i do have a decent level of hygiene and this dude, his level is below my acceptable level 😭 he recently had a fungi infection on his scalp and dandruff lasting two years and counting and omg the amount of dirt accumulated on the part of the table he always rest his hands onnnnn i always had to clean after him 😓 he spends his days literally either shitting or gaming or eating his room smells fermented!! So like, no. I do not want my watch on his body.
And now my mother is giving me the cold treatment 🙃 i feel like everyone’s boundaries shld be respected especially a girl growing up with only brothers. Most boys can share stuff idrc but I’m the only daughter can’t you respect that I don’t want my filthy brothers wearing my stuff since it goes onto MY body??
So tell me, AITA 💔
No
It should take less than a minute to determine what size she needs to buy and then the watch can be removed.
NTA.
NTA. Tell your mom your reasons. Say it in front of your brother. If you, his sibling doesn’t tell him he’s gross who’s going to? Like sometimes you gotta let them know what’s up
I mean if we’re talking just using it for a quick size reference then I think you’re overreacting just a bit. I mean boundaries are good and all but it’s not like he’s trying on your underwear. Or even keeping the watch. If he walked out with it I would say NTA, but it’s gonna be a soft AH for me.
I’m trying to figure out the, see his size part. Don’t get me wrong, but it’s a watch, not a shirt. Any watch that I have ever had was always adjustable. Plastic bands have multiple holes, metal ones have holes in the clasp part, plus links that can be added or removed. Am I missing something as to why she needed more of an exact size??
Thats what i thoughtt why does he have to try it on 😔 he’s hand is in the bigger size and so his watch is always on the last few holes but like its already an adult watch so wouldn’t it be the same size if same model 💔
NTA, I’ve had people like this throughout my life and I honestly feel and unreasonable level of hatred towards them because of it (it’s one of my biggest pet peeves lol)
It’s common sense really. If you want to use/take/touch someone ELSE’s stuff, you ask **first**. If you neglected to ask or if you ignored their response, they have every right to be unhappy about it. Also being family doesn’t magically change those rules either
Last time this happened to me the person said “haha sorry I’m nosy” while just grabbing stuff off my desk to look at it (im in art uni, some stuff is pretty fragile). I literally had to purposefully stop myself from slapping her. I hate it so much.
NTA! Your mom calling you selfish is the AH and your brother sounds disgusting, I don’t blame you at all.
Feels like your mom is the AH here. She should have asked first before taking your things for sure. But also if she did, you should let them use the watch to quickly figure out whatever they need to (not wear for extended periods). I dont really get why theyd need it to figure out the size but if its just one minute i think its fine. It can be cleaned afterwards.
NTA? Why couldn’t she just measure his wrist with a tape measure??
NTA. It’s basic courtesy and respect to ask before taking someone’s property and it’s even worse to take it to have someone else try it, use it, etc. And given the hygiene issues, it’s reasonable not to want him handlingyour things. Not only that, she shouldn’t been upset you complained when she was the one that asked what was wrong.
NTA. Even though it’s just kid stuff when you have kids/teens all things are teaching moments. In this, your mom should have shown a level of respect for you and something that is yours.
No. I only read the title. No one has a right to borrow your belongings.