I am 18 male, and my friend of three years dropped me and my group. We often had fun playing games, talking at school, and many hangouts at his house. Then one day, he just went dead silent. My other friend, who was closer to him than I am, recently tried talking to him as to get an awnser why, but we never got a solid reason. He said I was annoying to play with, and just a bad person to have around. Now, I dont know where this came from, as many times we have hung out and he never brought anything up. My thoughts are he was a different person than I thought he was, and I often "rage baited" him in some of the video games we played. It was never more or less than I did to my other friends, and noone else has ever made any comments that he was making. I thought it was just friendly "guy" jokes many men do, but I guess maybe he got annoyed at them? I never direcly insulted him, and I never saw any indicators that he was mad or annoyed. Now, I have tried contacting him to see why, to hop on a game, or to just apologize for whatever I did. I never spammed, never called, just the occasinal message over 5 months of silence. And I never got a single message back. I kinda miss hanging out with him, and it kinda has me thinking as to what I did and as to why he ghosted not only me but 3 other friends who did not do anything wrong. I understand if he just simply doesnt want to hang out with me anymore, but am I wrong for trying to find out why?
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NTA, but I think it’s in your best interest to respect his wishes and stop messaging him. I feel you man, I was in a somewhat similar situation this past year. I had a friend who I thought I was pretty close to and have a lot of mutual friends with. I got into a falling out with her best friend, not even with her really, and since then our friendship was over. I tried to reach out a few times over the span of a couple months apologizing for my end of things and hoping to at least talk things out and have some closure even if our friendship is over, and the only response I got in return was getting blocked. It sounds like your heart is in the right place, and I think it’s good that you attempted to reach out and smooth things over, but if he’s getting annoyed at you doing so I think you should just let him be. You’ve done your part and if he wants to mend things the ball is in his court 100%. I think if you continue to message him it might start to lean towards harassment, even if your intentions are pure. I wish you luck dude.
Yea thats what I figured. Ill probably let it it be, as like you said I dont wanna be more annoying, but its sucks as I really wanted at least an answer as to why, as I often think about it
YTA
“and I often rage baited him” oh yeah? give us some examples, because come on. that’s a bad look and not the thing to do
you do realize as written, you’re the textbook bully with no self awareness in this scenario, right? of course he dropped you, no one likes being shit on. good for him.
He doesn’t like you. Leave him alone
You just explained why. You rage baited him. Please explain exactly how you did that. YTA a giant one at that. It seems your other friends tolerate your behavior, that doesn’t make it ok. You are a bully with a rejection complex