i (19f) live at home with my mom and younger brother. today, she said shes going to give him my laptop. no asking, no ‘lemme run this by you first’, just straight up giving him my things. granted, i did not buy my laptop myself, she handed it down to me after she got herself a new one. my brother (young teenager) has most things in our home, he has his own xbox, nintendo switch, piano, laptop, phone, and collectables. he previously took my old ipad for his own hobbies as well as had his own TV in his room way younger than i did as a kid. i have my phone, headphones, and laptop. i told my mom i did not want her to give him my laptop since he has his own and is already constantly getting into trouble and getting his things temporarily taken away. she immediately called me greedy and selfish because “i dont need a laptop if im not in school”.
so i suppose my question is, should i just give in and let my brother have more of my stuff? or should i stand my ground on not letting her give him even more of my stuff just because im not in school?
You should save up and move out. Your mother is a nightmare as is your brother. Get out as soon as you can.
NTA
NTA.
If he already has a laptop why on earth would he need yours too?
Nta
INFO: why is he getting your laptop if he already has his own?
Wittle Diddums deserves all the best things, op can go back to their broom closet.
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NTA! He has one and I’m sure it was brand new when he got it,
INFO
Does your mom seem to favor your sibling? Are their needs and wants prioritized above your own regularly? If it’s part of a pattern, you will want to figure out which type of pattern.
Feels to me like NTA, and I have some suspicions.
What are you doing if you are not in school, if I might ask?
Given the list of things the brother has: yes, mom favours him.
Taking away her daughter’s laptop so son can have a second laptop: pretty clear evidence.
NTA, she gave it to you it is yours now and you decide what to do with it. If you are 19 and live at home you will have to deal with this sorta stuff though. Highly recommend you start thinking about moving out so you aren’t getting called names from your mom who favors your younger brother. I’m sorry you’re going through this
NTA and she needs some boundaries.
Argue that the laptop is being used for job interviews, then get on the laptop and start trying to get a solid job so you can move away.
If everything is exactly as you say it is, you’re NTA.
I think you should stand your ground personally.
General question: why is she giving your laptop to him if he already has one?
Side question: is it normal these days for kids to have tv’s in their rooms? I knew maybe one kid that did. Even some rich kids I knew didn’t. But I realize I’m from a different generation, so I’m asking.
Whatever though, sounds like NTA. Also gtfo there! Mom sounds cray
NTA, but maybe keep your laptop at a friend’s house while looking for a new place to live.