I (16F) and my stalker (above 25M)
(on Jan 25th 2026) we had a random interaction as most people do I was walking to the public city bus with my now ex-boyfriend (17M), while we were waiting my blood sugar went low. For some context I’m a type 1 diabetic and I’ve been diabetic since I was 7 years old, so this was pretty common so I reached for my bag to grab a drink and when I got my drink i obviously started to drink it as quick as I could to ensure I would be okay on the 25 minute bus ride home, so as I was drinking the juice I accidentally dropped my lid and I went to grab it and my now stalker let’s call him (S) try’s to help and reaches for the lid to and I politely said thank you, atleast 10 minutes go by and we start boarding the bus and me and my now ex “Jake”(not his name but) find our seats bc we wanted to sit together, we sat down and I realized that S sat 2rows behind us and I didn’t think much of it at the time cause I felt there was nothing wrong, but boy was I wrong. After the 25 minute bus ride me a “Jake” start to walk to my house because we were planning on having a sleep over as my dad approved it the night before, so as we’re walking to my house I notice S is following from a distance and I pointed this out to “Jake” at the time and he said not to worry and that S probably lived I in the area but I knew everyone who lived in that area since I’ve lived there since I was little and it was a very small community of our town, but I brush the feeling off and continue to walk to my house. When we arrived we went inside and started to relax and watch movies as any teenage couple would. But only after 15 minutes of being inside I noticed shadows moving around the window so I checked the ring doorbell app and guess who I saw outside in my front yard S… so I told my dad and he checked through the peephole and of course he saw him in the yard so he went outside and told S to get the “f” out of here. S was obviously startled and fled, about 2 days later when I had not seen S anywhere I felt like that whole thing was over with but no, later today I was out walking my dog (beagle basset hound mix) around the neighborhood around 3:35 in the afternoon like always then right when I got home I saw S standing near my neighbors house just staring at me lucky me my dad was in the garage messing around with his truck so I went up to my dad and told him what was happening and my dad called the cops but when the cops arrived S was some how with my ex bf “Jake” walking down the street and when “Jake” walked up to my house he said that S was a really cool and funny guy who he just happened to meet… this obviously hurt me and I told him that was the guy that followed me which then my now ex said “wow I never knew you were suck a racist cunt” therefore I broke with him in that same moment and also S was taken in to questioning by the cops, so I really hope nothing more happens.
I’ll post any updates I have!
For context I’ve been stalked in the past and this may just be a big fear of mine also I’m Native American I look white but I’m not and this guy was a mix but my ex said he looked Mexican which I couldn’t tell if he was !!!
YTA for making no attempt at punctuation.
NTA, Your father has reacted appropriately and in what he believes in your best interest so far, which most people will agree is also the right thing to do.
No 16 YO female needs to be dealing with a 25 YO showing interest in them. The age gap alone makes for a bad power dynamic, the maturity and the fact he should be doing other things rather than trying to get info on you from ex or current boyfriends or use them for an introduction to try and get to know you.
I also encourage you to learn how to quickly take pictures on your phone in the event you happen to run into him again. Doing that will help to provide proof of your interactions and when you encounter him.
Thank you!!! I also have documentation from the bus incident from when I first saw him following me the ring doorbell footage and the when I was walking my dog I really appreciate you seeing from my pov !!!
One of the things that more young women need is to learn to trust their doubts and to have other people prove their good intentions. I once explained to my younger sister that anyone can fake something for 30 days, and if they actually want something for 60 days, someone starts to show who they really are after that and by about 90 days you can have a pretty good idea of their true nature. Use that as your measure of how deeply to trust people and how sensitive the information you let them have and what you believe based on what they say, and how their actions reflect what they say.
fuck ur ex and fuck ur stalker. that’s really fucking weird of him to be around u that often especially staring and looking for u. the boy u were with is really immature and did not care abt u at all. either he’s a weirdo or he’s too stuck up and privileged to see the danger u were in. u did the right thing, don’t let anyone tell you different
Thank you so much!! It was truly terrifying seeing how my now ex reacted when I was panicking seeing him with the creeper after I pointed him out days before
You are a minor. He is an adult. He was trespassing. There is a number, 911, call it! In the time it took you to type this all out on Reddit. You could’ve called the cops and had them there and had him arrested.
My dad called the on him cops and he’s in questioning now so I have no idea what’s going to happen next
Did you read the post? The police were called and the man was taken in for questioning. You’re being an asshole.
If you have a stalker then why are you posting identifying information about yourself online?
How did your behaviour/reaction make you a racist exactly?