A friend asked if I can take him to the job since his car is broke. He lives 40 miles away 1 way. So nearly 100 miles round trip for me. I don’t mind doing it but I would expect at least some gas money. He said “no that’s what friends are for.” I told him I guess we are raised different because I would at least offer if that was me. It is a lot of driving for someone to go out of their way. Am I wrong for thinking this?
NTA. I would insist on paying if I asked the favour.
If I offered to drive, I’d pay. If I asked for help, I’d pay.
With the price of petrol at the moment, 80+ miles is a good chunk of change.
NTA. Instead of expecting a offer, just name your price. You’re also spending time.
No assholes. He asked, you answered. He doesn’t want to pay for gas? He can pay for the uber or ask someone else.
NTA… your friend is being a jackass. Especially if this is more than a one time thing.
There is really nothing more that I can add to that. My best friend in the world, who I’ve known since 6th grade, while without a doubt he would give me a ride in the same circumstances, for free, I would offer gas money. In fact I would insist, and hide the money in the glove box or something if he wouldn’t take it. And vice versa.
No one in their right mind would say “thats what friends are for”. Again, this friend of yours is a jackass.
NTA. If it was just around town then I wouldn’t necessarily expect someone to chip in for gas. But that’s quite a distance. If they’re hard up for cash and I knew that, maybe I wouldn’t anticipate a contribution.
NTA – 2 hours of your day is the friendship part of this. The ware on your car + gasoline isn’t.
NTA.
100 miles is a long drive for anyone. Your “friend” needs to rent a vehicle or work out trains, busses or uber to get to work and back home.
If I asked for a ride 5 or 10 miles away, I might not offer to pay for gas directly. 80+ miles? Absolutely!
Yes a friend does favors for each other. But some favors still require money. NTA
NTA your friend is a mooch.
NTA. The willingness to give up 2 hours of your time and mileage on your car is the favor. Asking for gas money is totally reasonable.
Friends don’t burden friends any more than necessary. It’s already a huge favor asking you to drive 40 miles out of your way to take him to work. That’s time and wear and tear on your car. And on top of that he wants you to pay for the gas. Ordinarily your friend would pay for gas if he had his car, so that is a very minimal and normal request. Unless your friend is next level generous with you too, I wouldn’t consider them such a great friend anymore. I would only take them if they pay for gas or they can rent a car. NTA
NTA. 40 miles is crazy to go and pick someone up and take them to work. Only time you’d catch me doing anything like that is an airport run, and even then it’s perfectly reasonable to ask for gas money