So me and my bf we will just call him bf both play Overwatch together with a group of friends in a discord server. We basically play with them EVERY night pretty much. Back track 2 days ago me and my bf were playing and he said “hey you should totally be there and play with us this Friday for drives” and I said “sure okay” and he goes specifically “drives is comp tho so it will be harder on u” and I said “okay I know I’m sure I’ll be ok?” And he goes “okayy” fast back forward to today drives started 2 everyone was talking about it in the server at like 12 saying they can’t wait and stuff and I said “I’d be playing” and stuff and then 2 rolls around I hop into the call and text bf to get on and he says “wym im playing drives soon?” And I said “yah? So am I” and he said “uh wym” and I said “I’m joining yall” and he said “idk abt that” and I said “why why can’t I join?” And he said “idk like comp is rlly hard” and I said “and? You invited me 2 days ago to play and said u rlly wanted me there” and he said “I don’t remember saying that tho” and I said “u literally did” and he pretty much said he don’t want me there and I’m like “why? The other 2 girls can join but not me?” And he said “what does this have to do with the other 2 girls” and let’s call one M I said “u say I’m so much better than M but she can be there and u believe in her but not me?” And he says “well she’s a good support not a good dps” and I said “so u don’t think I’m good at either?” And he said “I’m not saying that” and I said “u literally are” and so I put messages in the server saying “bf don’t believe in me and don’t want me to join guys im lowkey hurt” I GET IGNORED not one person says anything then I finish arguing with bf and say “guess im not playing” in the server and yet again get ignored then a hour later pretty much they join call and all playing together rn and i haven’t spoke to him since and he hasn’t said anything to me since am I the asshole for thinking he’s a asshole cause I’m fr hurt no matter how childish it is this is the only way we hangout being decently long distanced and they all just left me out.
My god, please use paragraphs, punctuation, and proper spelling. One can barely read this thing.
You all sound like dramatic teenagers.
ESH
We are both 19 I just don’t care about if my writing is perfect or not
NTA even if it is something small I can understand how it must hurt.
The thing is your boyfriend probably doesn’t even realize this and just sees it as a regular occurrence.
I’d say the next time you talk start off with telling him straight up that you didn’t appreciate how he made you feel and how important these games with him are to you.
NTA for being pissed at your bf, but YTA for trying to put your friends into the middle of an argument.
Your boyfriend decided for reasons he hasn’t told you that he is pretending he forgot. I don’t believe for an instant he forgot, but that is the dumbass story he is sticking with.
Idk why you would want to be with anyone who lies to your face and expects you to take it; me personally would be so disrespected it would be it for me.
You guys are long distance too. Long distance is perfect for selfish people: they only need to engage when they want to. They can ignore you, lie about you, or just keep you a secret to most people who know them.
It’s not about the game – its the lying to your face and that is the problem.
In the future though keep couple issues in the couple. Crashing out in chat makes you look really crazy and it makes it even easier for your bf to tell that group all kinds of stories about you.
Cause you know he isn’t just lying to you.
He lives about a hour away I see him like twice a month and his sister is one of the friends I was expecting at least for his sister to say something to him cause she loves me alot but she didn’t and don’t seem to care either and the other friends never ignore me like that I was hoping they’d also say like “nah ignore him we want you there” cause they usually always want me there but somehow tonight is different ? It just hurts I feel rlly left out rn
It’s really annoying and awkward being pulled into a couple fight; you shouldn’t expect anyone, especially his own sister, to take your side if you are doing that.
They are his friends. They will take his side. Its his sister. She will take his side.
It doesn’t matter how nice they are to you — they are HIS.
You need some friends that can give you good advice, not anyone he knows or is related to. You need your own life amd interests so you won’t melt down every time he picks his friends over you. Make other plans – don’t show up for overwatch until he explains why he did what he did.
That’s his sister, do you think she loves you more or her own brother? That expectation itself is out of place tbh
Info: have you played competitive Overwatch before? Seems like you might not have much experience with comp. People take it way more seriously and you can’t even get the drives rewards unless you’ve done your 10 comp placement matches for the season.
Ya he ended up telling me this TODAY when we was arguing and I said he should’ve told me that and I could’ve got it done with for the past 2 days I have a lot of time on my hands I could’ve did it but I literally like i said play better than both the girls they aren’t great and get just as much kills and healing and damage as me so it seems unfair and like he didn’t just want me there and is making excuses
Yeah that sucks. My thoughts are they are taking comp too seriously and think your lack of experience with it will bring the team down. It also kinda sounds like your bf talked to the group and told them you wanted to play and they collectively decided to just group up without you because they thought your inexperience could bring them down. Maybe that’s why he suddenly “forgot” he said that and no one replied to your messages. My suggestion: do your comp placement matches on your own time. Then if you’re actually better than some of them you can show them your rank as proof and they also won’t be hesitant to play with you because you have more comp experience now
Yeah ESH-
It’s immature of him to invite you to play, and then go back on it and play with your friends while ignoring how you feel about it.
But at the same time going into a server with y’alls friends and publicly saying he doesn’t believe in you and trying to make him look bad is also incredibly immature.
It sounds like y’all are young and need to work on better communication with each other if you want it to work out long term
We’ve been together since we were 12 and are now 19 so 7 years pretty much I just expected OUR friends to stick up for me a little and be like “nah ignore him we want u to play” cause they ALWAYS want me there but somehow don’t care tonight
That’s the longest sentence I think I’ve ever read.