AITA for not agreeing I need to pay my (26f) friend’s (26m) father back for a hotel room I didn’t stay in. 2 years ago I bought my friend tickets to the NRL grand final for his birthday and he asked me to go, after a couple days I agreed to go with him. I was unaware that his father had paid for him and I to stay in a hotel room until the day before. I was willing and financially capable of paying for my own accommodation. I was also told that his father had bought and paid for the room as a birthday gift. It was only a one night stay. The day we arrived my friend and I went to bars and got drunk. As we got back into the hotel room we both called it a night and went to bed (me in the bed and him on the couch). My friend slid into the bed with me and started touching me and made me extremely uncomfortable, especially after telling him ‘no’ numerous times. So that night after my friend had fallen asleep, I packed my things and went back to the airport to leave and return home. I was made aware the day after the NRL grand final that my friend had also not attended and had left the day after myself. I told my friend why I left and he was apologetic but also did not remember most of it. I do!
Today my friend’s father approached me in the shopping centre car park and demanded I give him back his money. Saying nasty things about me. Telling me to pay up. $1,200 is the amount he has demanded. But I don’t agree that I need to or should pay that money.
So am I in the wrong? AITA for not paying my friend’s father money?
NTA – Your “friend” sexually assaulted you. You never agreed to pay, and what kind of room costs $1200 for one night? Every part of that is insane. You shouldn’t be talking to anyone in that family because they all obviously have issues.
OP should told this father what hapened in the room. They both should be happy she didnt act on this
Wouldn’t the room be $2400 and dad is expecting her to pay half? I mean he did give it to son as a gift. Just too bizarre.
He gave his son a birthdaygift. Not your fault his son didn’t use it. NTA
Son did use the hotel room,actually…
NTA tell him what his son did. Tell him to never contact you again. Block him. If he persists, tell him you’ll take legal action.
NTA. his father paid for HIM to stay in a hotel. You weren’t a couple so i find it really difficult to believe that he purchased 1 room with 1 bed for both of you.
This more sounds like you friend took advantage of the situation to try and sleep with you.
That’s not a friend. And I very much doubt his forgetfulness.
Block him. Block his dad. Don’t engage with them further. Don’t pay them anything. His son sexually assaulted you. And his father is now harassing you and insulting you? That family is vile.
And if cornered anywhere else again (by him or his father) scream and call out for help. Or call the police.
NTA
Tell him he’s dreaming if he thinks you’re going to pay for a room you didn’t stay in because his son SA’d you.
Besides, his criminal son used the room so he should consider it a birthday gift.
I’d tell the dad it’s a wash since the son tried to assault you!!!
And add he’s lucky this doesn’t go further.
IF that never happened, I’d still say NTA. If you and friend went and agreed to split a room, but then later you didn’t pay up, I’d say the opposite but the dad got it for the kid regardless of who was with them. You were just a body.
Oooh what if the dad was in ok it and sprung for it hoping the kid would get lucky, and is now mad that you rejected them… ooohhhh
NTA
Your “friend” sexually assaulted you, aided and abetted by his father.
Sorry to tell you this, but this was almost certainly a set up that they cooked up between them.
My guess is he spoke to his father about his feelings for you and his dad’s response was something like “Get in there, son. Here’s for cash for a hotel.”
Both of these “men” are creeps and bullies.
Tell the father to sue you for the money and have his son explain the whole thing in a courtroom. He will slink back under his rock straight away.
Then block both of them and put your energies into decent people.
$1200 and that’s just half? What was this the fucking Taj Mahal?!?! You should’ve turned to him and said, “Your son wouldn’t stop fondling me in my sleep, so that’s why I left. I was going to ask you for $1200 for emotional damages. Now we’re even.”
NTA This guys not just a creep he assaulted you its not ok. His father should be told the facts.
It was 2 years ago and his dad approached you today??
Wtf? Why?
Why now 2 years later? And why should you pay for a room that his son was in?