I wanted to know more about my father but my mom refused to tell me anything.
So for context, my father left in 2009 and has yet to return. After things got really bad with my mom’s side, I decided to look for him. I found his account on FB but I could only reach out to my half brother. He gave me my dad’s number and I reached out to him. After my old phone was trashed, I lost all contacts with him and any family members on FB vanished, including my brother’s and a month after I reached out, my father remarried. This was all in 2024. Just recently I reached out to my half sister but here’s the thing. Today my mom told me that my siblings on her side did research and found the same information and said that in about a month, she’ll too reach out to my sister.
I never told my "mom" any of this.
Act normal, they know.
I’d do my best to stay calm.
>found the same information and said that in about a month, she’ll too reach out to my sister.
I’m sorry, I’m confused with this. Who will be reaching out to your sister (and is this sister your Mum’s daughter or Dads?)? Your Mum? Your half sister (Dad’s daughter).
And why is Mom in apostrophe?
It sounds like someone has told her that you’ve been in contact.
Please don’t apologize! My sister who I reached out to is my father’s daughter but we have different mothers. I put mom in apostrophe bc she doesn’t really feel like a mother. I don’t believe anyone could’ve told her bc money has been very tight lately and well let’s just say that my dad owes a lot.
Thanks for clarifying. Just out of interest, why would your Mum reach out to your half sister?
Info: What did your dad do when you reached out? Then he and the rest of his family either quit FB simultaneously or blocked you? Why is she in quotes? If you could go back and clarify the story, it might help.
At first he said he could drive from where he was living to come pick me up but then he never showed up and stopped contacting me altogether even when I got another phone and instantly messaged him. Then a few days ago I texted him on my actual message app but he still hasn’t responded.
NAH except Dad.
Your position is very understandable and I hope your mother will see it that way too. It’s normal you’d want to know more about your father. I’m sorry to say though, I expect him to disappoint you. He already showed you he is not a real father to you. And “yet to return”? Honey. It’s been 17 years. He’s not returning.
There’s no reason to apologize! You’re right. I’ve slowly come to terms with the fact that my dad isn’t a dad. He’s more of a coward if anything.
Huh?
The shorter version is my mom told me information about my dad that I already knew and is wanting to contact my half sister. If she contacts her then my mom will know that I was looking for my dad behind my back.
INFO: Why did you keep this a secret? Did you discuss your mom with your dad at all?
She knows. She’s either hacked your phone, social media, etc., or someone has contacted her and told her what you’ve done. I think it’s more likely that she has hacked whatever mode of contact you have used to contact them.