for context, i (19M) and my college roomate (19M) have gotten close since we started talking first this past summer. He comes from out of state and didnt have any friends so i introduced him to all of mine our first semester of college, and now all of us are friends.
yesterday, i walk into out lab we share in a few minutes late to see him sitting in between two random people. we can partner up for this lab. I see 3 seats in a row at the front of the class, so i motion for him to come join. as soon as he stands up, someone else sits in the middle of the three open chairs. My roommate tells me to bring a chair over, but im an awkward person and thats too challant for me. i see another person who i kind of know another row back with an empty chair next to him. we partner up and now my roommate is acting like i have done something terrible to him and wont talk to me, even when we are with my other friends. AITA?
INFO: What was the maximum group size? Why, after you signalled him to leave the group he was in, did you have a problem being a group of three with the other person at the front? If you could have groups of three why didn’t you include him in the third group with the other person you kind of knew? If you could only have groups of two and had to be sitting together, why not ask the middle-sitting person at the front to scoot over so you can sit with him?
Leaning toward YTA since you pulled him out of the group he was in, then didn’t pair with him, leaving him partnerless and looking rude towards the group he’s just left.
NTA. Ask him right out why he is so mad. Tell him he also could have moved the chair to sit with you. Then, offer to see if your partners will trade and become partners with each other, so you and him can partner. He sound immature and punitive.
Either one of you could have brought the chair.
Either one of you could have discussed partnerships with other students to be in the same group.
You both sound rather immature.
ESH.
One of you could’ve brought a chair over. And both of you could’ve discussed partnering up. ESH
YTA. You’ve been showing him your circle and the one time he asks you to join him you refused. Of course he is upset.
ESH. Him for simply assuming you’d partner with him before actually discussing it. You for expecting him to leave the group he’d already established to partner with you.
In the end, this is such a small deal that it should barely even register on the friendship ledger. It’s just a school project; you are both making too much of it.
ESH but not by much. Just an awkward miscommunication that hopefully shouldn’t be that hard to resolve by just talking it out.
You’re how old?? Did you mean 9 not 19?