I (30F) have found out that my bsf(31F) is dating her cousin(42M). She called me the other night crying because she’s felt horrible for keeping it from me (we tell each other EVERYTHING, have never lied) she says that absolutely nobody knows and was even scared to tell me cause she didn’t know how id react.
For some back story before anyone asks;
No they didn’t grow up together. One of his parents left when he was young and the other took him away from the family. The sibling of the parent who left found him over 20 years later and they reconnected. My bsf and him had only seen each other and spoke a small handful of times in the last 17-18 years. They reconnected recently and got closer than either expected..
I would never judge her and I’m happy that she found someone that treats her how she should be treated, given who the person is I guess. But I also think the family deserves to know. So AITA for wanting to tell them?
Edit: to explain more, I’ve known her most of our life’s so his family considers me a second daughter. That’s why I had the thoughts of letting them know
YTA. Mind your own business.
YTA, it’s not your problem and you don’t need to get in it.
YTA, it’s not your business to tell. If you guys tell each other everything and she was really hesitant about this and STILL confided in you…I bet this will break the friendship. However your feelings are about it, it’s not up to you if the family should be informed or not.
Lol why do you think it’s your place to inform her family
You’re both older than 30, and she had trouble telling you. It isn’t your business like it would’ve been if they were younger. YTA if you expose her secret after she finally told u
YTA! It is not your information to announce. Stay out of it! It is entirely up to her and the person she is dating who, if anyone, they wish to tell.
First of all, she never lied, she just didn’t tell you. Second, yta, mind your business it’s between the family.
YTA because it’s not your place to tell. But also, ew.
YTA it’s none of your business to tell them
YWBTA yes. That’s not your business to tell and you’re not family. I don’t agree with her actions but at the end of the day it is a consensual relationship and not causing harm/danger. It would be one thing if they are considering having kids. I would only strongly advise her to end things or be honest because it’ll come out eventually (just not from you).
YTA. Why would you insert yourself into the middle of this with her family? Why is it any of your business?
YTA. It’s not your call. You would destroy your friendship. You would also make the family unhappy that she didn’t tell them herself. It’s up to her in her own time and her own way.
Why are you, the morality police? What do you gain from telling them? Nothing. What do you lose? A friendship. What does she lose? Possibly her whole family and her relationship.
In case you haven’t realized – you’re the asshole. Here’s your award. 🥇
Yeah, YTA that’s not yours to share.