My roommate sends things through the mail very frequently to clients of hers, and I am paranoid about people gathering my private information, even when it does not have my name directly attached. Sometimes I get worried that people can look up my address and find where she and I live for any nefarious reason. I brought this up with her and asked her to stop, but she has not. She says she needs that on there in case it needs to be returned to sender. I mentioned her getting a p.o. box, but she pays her part of the rent and lives here, it seems scummy to ask her to pay for an entire new p.o. box regularly. I still feel that she should do that, and that it would be safer for both of us as well. AITA?
Edit: Alright, I’ll drop it. Dang, so vicious! I just wanted to be safer but I am the asshole here. I’ll let this go.
Edit2: What I wrote comes off as snarky to some, and they say I don’t get it. I get it now, I’m being overly paranoid and what I did was not cool, and I’m going to amend it. I am being literal in this statement, and I am seriously not being sarcastic at all in any part of the post or any comment on the post, genuinely. I wouldn’t have posted if I didn’t have any doubts about my behavior, and I was wrong and understand it and I will no longer worry about the address being on her outbound mail.
YTA
A lot of times mail won’t even be delivered without a return address. And she’s right, why should she have to pay for a PO box to manage YOUR paranoia. Not to say get therapy, but you need help addressing this paranoia and anxiety
YTA. Sounds like you should be living alone
YTA. And paranoid.
YTA. No one is tracking you down via an address on your roommates mail. You’re being weird AF.
YTA. People can walk by and write down your address and look up who lives there. They don’t have to look at your mail.
I think you’re being paranoid. But if you feel \*that\* strongly? Offer to pay for a PO Box for her.
YTA. genuinely, seek counseling for this paranoia. it can’t be fun to live like that.
YTA. It’s standard practice to put the return address on mail.
Yes, YTA with some paranoia mixed in. Return addresses are needed in case something can’t be delivered, and presumably your roommate is using her name and address, so mail can be tracked back to her and not you.
Yes, YTA. do a name search on the internet. you may be surprised what is already out there about you. if you are that concerned there are several services that will scrub the internet for you for a fee.
Yta. She’s allowed to put her return address on her mail. Quit being paranoid
They are tracking you on this device right now.
Get up, leave everything, flee into the woods.
Yta
Your address is almost certainly public record unless you have taken steps to remove it
YTA.
>I am paranoid
Said it yourself. This is a YOU problem. Not a HER problem.. No one cares that much about you to get your address. You’re not that important.