Hi there! so I am in a weird situation, my best friend of four years (calling her Beth for the purpose of privacy) and I have been living together since about May of 2025 but have been friends for a long time and have gone through a lot of hard things, recently things have just gotten very tense to the point where i get anxious around her and she is drunk a lot and can be very belittling or rude. I have tried to help her but she doesn’t really care to help herself. my partner doesn’t like the way she acts and the things she says to me.
Beth drinks almost a bottle a day and has had issues with other substances.
It all came to a head yesterday because i am way past the end of my rope and i don’t think her living here or us being friends is healthy anymore
My partner talked to Beth while i stayed at a families house trying to reason and explain where we are coming from and why this isn’t working and she laughed and brushed it off saying he is bombarding her with all of this information.
I wasn’t there because i have very bad anxiety and wanted to see how the initial talk would go before i talked to her one on one
We come back to the house today after my partner gets me and i knock and try and talk and she says she is too tired and has nothing to say to me and i try to tell her that she isn’t healthy for herself or me and she needs to find another arrangement within two weeks before her trip starts. she said she helped pay rent and so i sent the money for february she had paid back to her and said she needs to go, and she said she doesn’t have to go anywhere.
AITA for kicking her out because of her drinking problems and he’s lack of respect for me for a long time?
I wanted to initially go about this as cordial as possible but she is very narcissistic and thinks she runs everything because i used to be a pushover
EDIT: she is not on the lease me and my partner are!