so I’ve had this crush on someone for six years, and basically everyone at my school, including her, knows. I’m close friends with her best friend, and we would often text about her. In the past month, our relationship had taken a lot of ups and downs, I had hurt her a lot, brought her down and been generally rude to her. It had taken a couple months, but we were friends again, just in the past week. I was incredibly happy because of this, and started talking to her friend about her, just how awesome she was, how nice, godly, etc. I know it’s a bit weird, but I really like her, and she’s pretty great. After sadies, I was texting her friend, and after a bit, we started talking about my crush. I was saying how great she was (never once mentioned her looks, just her godliness and her personality). I’m a very emotional guy, not in the way that I have a lot of emotions, but the emotions I have are incredibly strong to the point where they give me physical pain or joy. (Positive emotions make me physically feel high, negative ones physically hurt me) I told her friend this, that knowing I’ll never be with my crush felt like my lungs were being torn from my heart, and I can’t breath because of it. Now I was pretty stupid, and I didn’t realize that she would prolly show my crush. I went to bed, and I woke up the next day to fourteen texts from my crush. I was happy because as far as I had known she had still blocked me. When I opened the text, I was greeted with fourteen texts saying that I was a creep, it was really weird, that it was super annoying I was texting her friend about her behind her back, and that though it was flattering, I was bordering an unhealthy lust. I know that it is weird to have someone obsess over you, but I don’t know if what I did was that bad?
A six year crush?!
yup, from seventh grade to senior year
Ooooh you’re a teenager! that makes this make so more sense.
You’re hyper fixated as hell so everything you feel surrounding her is amplified and blind.
Recognise when you’ve grown too attached, and fixated on someone, and correct the behaviours before you blow all future relationships. this isn’t a crush, it’s a hyper fixation, so figure out what triggered that reaction to her and work on it.
ESH tbh
You shouldn’t be yammering on about her to a mutual friend, and your mutual should be a better friend and check you rather than snitch
yo thanks, I know I’m obsessed, it’s just so hard to actually step back
It’s always easier said than done. Gotta find something new to fixate on that gives you the similar feeling but one that is healthy lol
What do you mean, you thought your crush had still blocked you? There’s more to this story than you’re saying.
The way you are downplaying your comments in the title suggests that you aren’t taking accountability for your actions. You didn’t just tell your friend that your crush is a good person. You took it to a whole other level that likely came across as desperate and entitled. It’s not a crush, it’s an obsession.
I will say it was an obsession, I’ll openly admit it, and our previous argument had just been resolved, I don’t know when she had unblocked me from that. All I said was that she was a great, godly, kind, patient, and honest person. I also said that the fact we would never be together physically hurt
You said she knows about your crush, and you said that you already know that she doesn’t want to be with you (considering you said you know you’ll never be with her and at some point she BLOCKED YOU). Yet you have done nothing to try to move on, and instead you are still obsessing over her and waxing poetics. Yeah, that’s a bit creepy. There’s definitely more to the story considering she blocked you, so as of right now, YTA.
Yeah, she blocked me because previously I had been awful to her, but we had made up. I’ll admit I haven’t tried to move on, cause I just see her as such a great person, I don’t want to move on, but I’ve prayed to God to help me move on, I don’t know
This isn’t really an AH call, but you need therapy. This is not a healthy way to relate to someone – being rude, causing them pain, then elevating them to godhood, and saying that they are causing you physical pain.
Her friend was probably worried that you might do something drastic – I know \*I\* am, and I’m not even part of this situation.
Talk to a professional. Learn how to cope with your strong feelings. Do this before you fixate on someone else.
I do do therapy, I took out my emotions in harmful ways, but I never thought that she had a place there, she had always calmed me, made me happy. The pain she cause was trivial compared to the joy, thanks though, I’ll think about it
It is because of the “godliness,” that is where you missed your target. You need to have an infatuation centered on someone more human and reachable, more human. It is not an absolute, but people that are described as being godly, are out of touch with human perspectives and how people are not any closer to God than anyone else. There are no individuals that are higher or in better relationships with your creator than everyone else. No one is “godly.” Again, not an absolute but people that may be seen by themselves or others as being higher are rotting with false pride and ego. They are servants of the Devil, only the Devil would have them think themselves as being better than others. It is why, some will say and the ones that know, that is why Lucifer Morningstar fell and became a fallen Angel. Thinking he was better than an other creation of your God. Your crush is not a good person, your friend is not a good person. They are servants of their Anti-Christ, they are waste from the worms. That pain you feel? Evidence of their foul demon poison. You must rebuke your allegiance to their wicked foul charms before you lose your soul. Godliness, do not make me laugh.
nope, I know she’s a fallen human, she knows it more than any one, and admits it, I just think it’s cool that she is able to be so blatant about her faith, and her love for god pours out of her. It doesn’t make her “above” or “superior” it just makes her a kinder, more lovable person