AITA for not feeding my wife?
I spoke with my wife about dinner throughout the day. Basically let’s order some wings and watch the Bad Bunny concert. She agreed.
I ordered Wingstop at 5:30 for pick-up at 6:30.
Well, bad news. I get to Wingstop at 6:30 and there are 50 people waiting in line. Apparently there is a 2 hour delay on all orders.
I go back home and explain it to my wife. She is highly upset.
She then tells me that she knew Wingstop would be backed up, but that she didn’t want to say anything.
She also said we could have eaten at a friends house because they were ordering pizza.
She also tells me that she had mentioned wanting Japanese food today but that I was “so dead set on wings” she didn’t say anything.
I apologized again. I offered to try picking up the order again in another hour. I offered to try and pick up anything else from anywhere else. She said no.
Well Wingstop still wasn’t ready at 8:30. She had me cancel the order. I asked what else I could get her, she said “nothing I’ll just go to bed hungry.” I know that’s not what either of us want for her.
I feel awful and stupid. I’m crying in my car. Obviously I could have done some things differently but I feel like that’s true of both of us.
Are relationships/marriages always this hard? Is this something I just need to learn to live with? I feel like I shouldn’t be crying about dinner?
AITA for not paying attention to what my wife wanted for dinner?
So neither of you can make a sandwich or feed yourselves? ESH.
ESH
Of course wings wouldn’t be available on Superbowl day, you really should have thought that through.
Her not saying anything till after doesn’t help.
Learn to communicate you two.
YTA. You tried to get wings on Super Bowl Sunday at 5pm? Just waltzing on in?
Yeah, man, you’re the asshole for that. You absolutely should’ve planned ahead for wings if you wanted wings on the day of the year that sells, by a huge margin, the most hot wings.
As for the rest of it, I dunno man. I’m not hear to judge your relationship. If it’s that hard, talk to a therapist. Or a couples therapist. Or both. That’s neither here nor there. But it’s not dinner you’re crying about.
Info: do you have any idea why she doesn’t bring things up to you? Have you got a history of ignoring her or shooting her down?
Also, why didn’t you call her when you were out instead of going back home?
From your description it’s obviously n t a, but I’m so confused by her behaviour that I’m wondering if there’s some context you’re missing.
ESH. Why couldn’t you guys make a quick dinner at home?
A bit of YTA yes, because if she had already told you about Japanese and pizza you shouldn’t have been so surprised when she brought it up again. Also what kind of dummy decides at the last minute to try to order wings on SUPER BOWL SUNDAY????
NAH. You both missed opportunities for better communication. You didn’t ask what she wanted, but she didn’t speak up or allow you to fix it either.
When you’re both calmed down, chat about it. How would you both have preferred this situation to happen? Is there a happy medium? Don’t try to solve the problem while tensions are still high?
ESH but you’re a fool thinking you’d be able to get wings without pre-ordering them several days ahead. Frankly, I would’ve not even banked on it at that point either.
If you’re gonna do wings, you need to order it from a place that does catering. You should’ve gone to a party if you had been invited.
If I had to guess, your wife is probably upset at your inability to plan ahead efficiently and also learn how to adapt when needed. The fact that you were so still set on wings when it was clearly not gonna happen is a major signal of your failure to do that.
Yeah, your wife was acting a little bit dramatic by suspect part of that is also the hunger. You dropped the ball badly though, and frankly, probably the best move forward is to own up completely to the tactical mistake.
Wings weren’t working….so order from a Japanese place and pick it up. Stop at the grocery store and get things to make her dinner. Why was the option Wingstop or going to bed hungry?
YTA
You need to learn some problem solving skills
ESH. Do you even like each other? Or consider compromising on things?
It’s never about the food. Fights like this have a deep underlying issue that ya’ll need to talk about. Probably tomorrow though.
If you’re crying in your car over this, and she’s throwing a tantrum, then you both probably need some therapy
It’s normal to have conflict like this but not normal for it to be blown up so much if that makes sense.
I don’t think YTA for it but yeah ordering wings (or ordering anything really) is pretty dumb on Super Bowl Sunday. Especially at peak times.
Also keep in mind that most people turn into assholes when hungry so tomorrow (once she’s had breakfast) she’ll likely be a lot calmer about it
ESH yall are both terrible planners and I don’t know what either of you expected trying to order dinner *during* the Super Bowl. ?????????
Omg bro you’re trying to divorce your wife and you’re posting in AITA about how you both dropped the ball on Super Bowl Sunday dinner? Really? What does it matter
So we should ignore your post history? YTA.
My frustration would be that you came home without any food and no idea when the wings would be ready. You went out to get dinner and you came home with no food. If this were my relationship I would have liked you to bring home something for dinner. You could have called or texted for my opinion, but coming home without food is where the error was.