My friends Mai and my other friend Natasha are not good friends, they don’t talk to each other because they had some problems with each other last year 2025. Last week Thursday, I was in class with Mai we were talking and minding our own things we were doing, Our other classmate Keren sees us and said to me "Noam, you really are a dog, when they do something to you, you go back to the same person, you are too nice." (Just for context a long time ago Mai called me poor and she called me a pick me, but I forgave her, sometimes she would openly do things I didn’t like but I always chose to forgive her) Now I didn’t say anything so did Mai, I looked at her and she looked sad and was shaking a bit. What Keren said hurt me but I didn’t talk back, he didn’t stop there he kept on talking with his friend, Melody. Mai and I didn’t talk for the day, it was really awkward, I got home did somethings and I started overthinking the situation "Is she really a bad person?" "No I don’t believe them right?" "She changed" I was thinking of the situation for so long, I suddenly get a notification on Instagram. Mai sent me a message "Noam, I need space from you. You are honestly becoming too much for me" Wow How I wish I could explain they way my mind exploded with question demanding for answers. I was confused and I needed advice, so I texted Natasha and told her everything about Keren and the message Mai sent me she gave ma advise to leave Mai, she told me she wasn’t a good friend and she was a fake person, and she did so many bad things, and I shouldn’t be nice all the time. (Now for context Mai had done many other things to Natasha and other people, that’s the reason people don’t really like her, and distance themselves) I thanked Natasha for her advice and I laughed at a few jokes she made. Now the real problem started on Friday morning, I went to school early and Natasha was there I went to her and talked to her about the situation, we talked for some time, and that was when we say Mai, she headed to class mad I wondered why, but I didn’t give it much of a thought, Then Natasha goes "Your friend is there, i’ll be going" Mai entered from the back door behind me and came towards our direction she passed me and started shouting at Natasha "WHY IS MY NAME IN YOUR MOUTH?" "WHY ARE YOU TALKING SHIT BEHIND MY BACK?" and Natasha responds "BECUASEYOU ARE A FAKE FRIEND!" and they keep shouting at each other, I tried to break the argument Mai just storms back to class leaving me and Natasha confused there, I asked Natasha why she was shouting at her, she said she didn’t know why I thought they had talked yesterday so it brought some argument? Nope I was compltly WRONG, Turns out Mai went into my Instagram without my permission and went to read me and Natasha’s messages I didn’t give her my consent or my permission, she did it on her own. Natasha was telling me on how she will talk to Mai during break, during break they fought Now everyone said it’s my fault.. Is it?
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Sorry for that.
You need new friends.
Your “friends” sound exhausting! 🥺. Consider whether you are better off without them.
So to summarize, M and N dont like each other. Something was said where M, a person who has hurt you before, said they needed space. They then somehow got into your Insta without your permission (info: how does she have access to this????) And gets mad bc you asked N for advice.
judgement for now is NTA but cut Mai out of your life. Who the hell reads someone else’s private dms without permission???
Nta. Mai is the one who logged into your PERSONAL account and read PRIVATE messages, she is at fault here. Sounds like someone you’re better off without.
Side note: why can she log in to your account? Get that password changed (and any passwords on other accounts that anyone other than you knows or can guess) and keep it to yourself.
How did she have the password ?