I was gifted a house when I was 18 and dumb. I’m now 44 my elderly relative has been living in the house which was originally his. He has not paid rent and I have paid for plumbing issues in the past.
We now have an estranged relationship.
He is becoming demanding with fixing things within the home and started to say pretty hurtful things to myself and siblings. He has said as I’m the owner I’m having to pay for things now after 25 years of not a lot.
I spoke to a solicitor who says it would be a good idea to evict in this case.
Would I be the asshole if I evict them or do I continue to manage the house and my relative?
Edit: for context I do not live in the home and never had. The person living in the home is the same person who gifted it to me. He has never paid rent or any monetary value to myself. He did receive a large sum of money (~100,000) for the gift from another relative which I found out today. So he has financially benifted from the transaction.
INFO: Was it given with a lifetime tenancy for your relative, or with a similar understanding?
INFO: How do squatters rights work in your city when you already gave clear permission to live on the property?
NTA. You’ve provided him free housing for 25 years, you’ve covered repairs, and now he’s being demanding and hurtful. At some point generosity has limits, especially when it’s being met with hostility. Follow your solicitor’s advice
>You’ve provided him free housing for 25 years
**Lol – OP was GIVEN A FREE HOUSE.** ***It was his house.*** **Sure OP has obligation to keep it up and repair it ffs. If OP is slacking off and treating it like a squat, no wonder the elderly relative who transferred ownership to them is annoyed.**
In many countries, if an elderly person transfers ownership of asssets to someone else, they will loose their old-age pension. **Seems the elderly relative ensured that they wouldn’t lose their pension, and OP would have a free house all their life.** Now OP wants to kick them out. ffs
NTA… but I’d check for medical issues. This is how dementia starts showing up. A lot of them can’t recognize they aren’t functional as part of the disease. So many cases of asshole behavior leading to estranged behavior because the frontal lobe quit working.
It’s not on you to stay in an abusive situation, of course… however, I would at least alert his doctors or maybe get an adult services check in, if nothing else.
Like maybe he just sucks too, but it helps to check. I had both happen in my family.
You should sell it, buy a new investment. If he wants to stay, he can buy it.
YTA. Someone gives you a free house but you are complaining they don’t pay you rent (seriously??) and expect you to maintain the house to a livable standard. You were given a gift worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. If you did not want the rrsponsibilities that come attached with the gift of that magnitude, you should never have accepted it. I don’t believe for a second that there was no verbal discussions about the relative living out their life there, even if they were foolish enough to trust OP and not to put it in writing.
The real question js whether OP loves there too. If not expecting OP to pay the taxes and repairs while getting no financial help is ridiculous. The ramifications of which would probably not occur to an 18yo who doesn’t understand the financial burden that the “gift” entailed.
If she does live there then these expenses are just a part of owning a house
YTA – Pretty reasonable to ask the landlord to do repairs.
Err…
You’re supposed to pay your landlord rent…
It reads to me like he never contracted his tenant to pay rent. Sweet deal for the tenant of course but still reasonable to ask the homeowner to fix things in his own home. If he’s evicting him for 25 years of unpaid rent, then what are we even doing here?
Seems like a weird family situation missing a lot of context regardless.
Who gave it to you and what would they want you to do?
You were 18 when he gifted you the home. Did he stay living in it all this time? Was he paying the mortgage for you and any repairs needed without you providing a penny or even a thank you for what he did? Or was it that he bought it let you live in it while he paid for everything? Then when he needed a place to stay moved in and is demanding for you to start paying for what should’ve been your job all along? Either way you are coming off as an ungrateful ah to me. So you should do an update and provide more details.
The way you worded it, it sounds like the relative who lives with you is also the one who gave you the house. Is that correct?