So before you read, I don’t like lying that’s why I am asking you all to give an opinion. Okey so to skip some of the the boring stuff I am just going to jump to it. I(14 female) have somewhat helicopter parents and by somewhat I mean they gave me a phone at nine years old and let me have YouTube, which I heard some people were no allowed to. But the thing they don’t allowing is social media 🙌🏼because some people use it for no good. So my friends have all kinds of social media and I don’t which makes me jealous. I have always been an A student and haven’t gotten much support just mom talking how she likes to brag and then back to school. I have also been told I am a good for nothing so I rely more on my friends than them. The problem is my friends parents don’t have a problem with social media so they have Al kinds of it except the kids I have like WhatsApp. Now the lie is that to talk to my friends I downloaded Snapchat when I was told no to because it’s a big rule in my family. “They aren’t your blood don’t talk to them “ which is hard when they are pressuring me to meet new people when I literally can’t. And I am that smart kid that you become friends with to get your problems out of the way and make them mine and then stab me in the back. So please help me it’s a mix of things but I hope one of you can understand.
Based on what you said, I would describe them as helicopter parents. They just understand the dangers of the internet. I have a daughter who’s a couple years older than you and I work in law enforcement. I hear about all kind of awful things involving social media with kids my daughter’s age. I allow her to be on Instagram, but we’ve had long talks about internet safety and who she can and can’t talk to and who she’s allowed to follow. It sounds like your parents want to keep you safe.. but it also sounds like your friends aren’t that great, either. I’m going to withhold a judgment because I really do understand the pressures of making friends and trying to fit in.
Why are you in here if you’re not allowed on Snapchat?!? Go away. You’re too young to be in this app let alone Reddit. And some man on social media will snatch you up and you’ll never see your family again. Stop lying to your parents!!!
NTA. Use your best judgement, stay safe on the internet, but using social media to chat with real-life friends is fairly harmless. Especially if your parents are calling you a “good for nothing”, that’s horrible and it’s reasonable that you’d rely on friends for emotional support if that’s the sort of thing you hear from family.
As a prior 14 year old girl I did not need Snapchat at that age