(First post, so don’t be very mean if I don’t exactly word everything right, thank you!)
So, a little bit of context for the post, since the title makes it look really bad from the get-go.
I worked as a security guard in an alarm recieving center. I dunno how it’s called in english, but, basically, we recieve triggered alarms from places like stores, pit stops, banks, etc and cross-reference them to make sure whether there was a positive alarm or not.
And it was miserable. My boss was a lying asshole who wiped his ass with the only two things I asked when I was interviewed. I only asked to not get called or messaged on my free days to come work and to never transfer me over to night shift. The very first day I started, he immediately asked me to go somewhere else the day after and then he forced me to work a whole month on night shifts on the excuse that they had to train the person who was going to work night shifts to cover the vacant. There’s more to say about him, but it’s a long story. So I put in my 12 day notice and intended to leave at the end of last month.
Now, my parents are very traditional when it comes to work. They are the kind of people who believe work fulfills you and that you NEED to work a regular "stable" job to be happy. So upon knowing that I was gonna leave the company, they immediately started asking me what were my plans afterwards, which is fine. I told them I have a contact who could fix me up with job offers and a tip-off that another company was recruiting for a similar profile to mine.
And the very first day I stopped working, they started hounding me. "When are you going to call them?", "Have you gotten any news yet?", "Have you been applying in other companies?". Day in and day out, multiple times a day, both of them would bother me incessantly about it, even though I specifically told them that I wanted to wait until they gave me the settlement money for my leave (which my company is fucking me over by not giving me yet).
Eventually, I kinda broke down and told off my mom (they work different shifts, so they don’t coincide during the day) and she got incredibly agitated and started calling me a bum and saying that I really don’t want to work and want to be craddled in their house forever.
AITA?
It sounds like if you live with them you need to be working 🤷♂️
YTA
If you live with them there are 2 choices: contribute or leave. YTA
If you are independent, so living on your own and paying your own bills, thats fine. If your parents are paying for everything, you are the ass.
YTA. You shouldn’t quit a job without another one secured. Settlement money isn’t a guarantee and you don’t know how much you’ll actually get from it. As an adult living in someone else’s house, having a job to live there is reasonable
**OP, How old are you?**
YTA – unless you are not legally and adult. You should have been looking for a job the day you put in your notice or better yet, sucked it up until you had a job. You would be forced to do that if you were on you own, supporting yourself. Your parents don’t owe you a free ride so get a job and apologize. It is entitled to think that your parents are not allowed to speak their mind about you not working or taking looking for a job seriously.
YTA. Quitting without a job lined up is a bad idea.
YTA. I don’t see the point in waiting for a settlement before you start applying for jobs or working. You’re 26 and you don’t pay rent. You should be looking for work.
“They are the kind of people who believe work fulfills you and that you NEED to work a regular “stable” job to be happy”
For most of us, we NEED to work to eat and pay bills. And a lot of people hate their jobs, but have to do it for those reasons.
You are obviously from a very wealthy family since you don’t need to work. And lying to the people who provide for you is a pretty ahole thing.
YTA
I don’t think that they are obviously from a wealthy family. Both mom and dad work and are probably struggling as it is an now have to fully support this 26 year old free loader.
YTA. You’re 26 and you quit a job without another job and your attitude indicates that you think work is some sort of optional assignment.
Unless you have a trust fund, in which case go use it, you NEED a job.
Stop being a freeloader and grow up.
You do not NEED to work to be happy but you do NEED an income. Sounds like you expect them to fund you in which case, YTA. It could be a looooooong time before you see that settlement money.
YTA unless you’re entirely independent and self-sufficient, they get to have their input about your job situation, and quitting a job without having another job lined up is poor decision making unless you have the money saved to support yourself during a potentially long job search
YTA for a few reasons
1. It’s (almost) always a TERRIBLE idea to quit a job before you have the next job lined up. And “waiting for settlement money” is a really bad excuse for not looking for work.
2. Your last line also reveals that you still live at home. So what you’re also doing is expecting your parents to be your safety net while you maybe eventually sorta look for work. And you try to frame this as them having some absurd attitude on work is life… that’s not what’s going on here. They’re telling you that it’s not cool to just up and quit and expect them to pay for your life indefinitely.
I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing young (but an adult). Part of being an adult is being responsible for your own life. You’re making irresponsible choices and making it someone else’s problem. That’s absolutely not cool.