So I (19F) was in work and for context I work in a gym owned by my uncle but hes taking some time off for personal reasons the guy (20ish?M) whos just under him was on holiday but came back last week and is now thinking hes the best thing to walk the planet because hes in charge.
Ive had valentines day and the day after booked off for about 2 months now and he knows that, but recently he got himself a girlfriend. he tried to tell me that my request for time off was denied when it was approved like a day after i made the request, so when i called him out on the lie he said “well im the boss and i want the day off and you took the day after too its just selfish im sure youll be fine working on valentines day just do something before or after” now keep in mind he tried to get me to work from 12pm to 9pm so i told him to fuck off and he didnt take that very well and went off on a big rant saying “im your boss you cant speak to me like that i want the day off to spend time with my girlfriend on our first valentines day so you will be working because im not and if you dont then ill deny any future requests you make and youve taken the last week and a half off while ive been working so i deserve it” i took the last week and a half off because i badly hurt my ankle, hes been with his girlfriend for like a week while ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. i was already having a bad day so i told him to “grow up and get a fucking life” amongst other things like the fact he just took about a month off to go on holiday. he took a really deep breath and walked away looking like he was about to cry.
im kind of feeling bad because maybe i shouldntve said that and i know how important first valentines is and ive met his girlfriend and she seems really sweet AITAH?
Edit : A guy that was coming into the gym while it was happening said it was a really shit thing for me to say and how hes probably excited for his first valentines day so im starting to feel bad and like an asshole
ESH – exhausting, immature children the both of you.
ESH. Telling a coworker to fuck off is never a good move. You should have just told him you aren’t coming in as you already requested it and had it approved and then just ignore him. He can’t physically force you to come in, and he probably can’t fire you
ESH. In front of a customer?
ESH. He’s trying to make a power play, good on you for not taking it. However, every job you work you will have someone in your chain of command like this. You can either do what you did, feel rightly bad, and get fired for not handling things professionally or learn how to handle the situation professionally. In this case you reach out to his boss and ask for clarification on time off policies, particularly if you have already been approved and that is being taken back.
NTA. This dude is on a power trip. How long he’s been with her doesn’t matter. If she is that sweet, she should understand that you have had this plan for a long time. Besides, going out on Valentine’s Day is like hell on earth (I am a woman, btw). All the restaurants have gross prefix menus, and everything is over priced. He can take her out the night before and save a bundle. She can come hang at the gym with him on the day itself if she likes him that much.
UNO reverse him and pull out the uncle card. Approved PTO is approved PTO. Make sure you have it in writing and then just don’t show up (warn your uncle in advance).
The guy in the gym’s opinion doesn’t matter unless one of you is in a relationship with him.
EHS…
NTA. You had the time off booked and approved – end of story. His trying to bully you was a poor move and his excuse of just getting a girlfriend is not a valid reason. Stick to your guns and take your days off.
I would talk to your uncle
It seems a power trip. He can’t fire you because your uncle owns the place. IMO let things simmer down, be a man and settle it (not in front of customer). Try to make this a win win for both of you ( I know it sucks). If you tell your GF would she understand ? Actually I would start there. Good luck!
Never a good idea to tell your boss to F off, even if he is only in charge temporarily. Learn to manage your emotions.
I would just ride it out until the real boss gets back and have a conversation with him. You will come across as the more mature person.
ESH
He’s being rude and power tripping but you need to exercise at least a little restraint AT WORK. You should have politely told him, “I already had the days approved so while you can put me on the schedule I will not be in. If you have an issue you should contact your supervisor.”
NTA, but please learn to use punctuation. You’ll get a lot further if you know how to write.
That’s not how you speak to your boss, or superior, ever. Extremely unprofessional.
ESH
ESH. You do not speak this way to coworkers or around clients. If this guy has a boss, you talk to the boss. Worst case scenario, you take the time off anyway and refer management back to the approved time-off request.
If you act like this at any job where your employment isn’t a matter of nepotism, you’ll be fired very quickly and for cause. So… grow up and stop acting like this. Learn how to communicate without throwing a fit.