Please keep in mind never met the girl in real life (only texts and calls ) but yet but planning to this week to see her irl and never met the sister ! Either
I matched with a girl online and we talked a lot at the beginning. We flirted, and it eventually turned into sexting (it was her first time doing anything like that). At the time, I genuinely liked her and thought we might be compatible even though she’s haven’t even had her first kiss yet or anything “sexual” like a blank piece of paper which can be scary for men.
By coincidence, Im actually now in the same same city as her for work, and we’ve started overlapping socially same general friend circle.
As time passed, I started realizing we’re actually very different people. She’s more reserved and inexperienced, while I’m more outgoing and open to new experiences. There’s no bad behavior here, just a mismatch I didn’t see at first.
Here’s where it gets uncomfortable: I’ve gotten to know her sister a bit keep in mind we only chatted over phone and haven’t met either în person yet but plan to this week and personality-wise, she’s much more similar to me. Same energy, more social, spontaneous, independent. We click more naturally.
Nothing has happened between me and her sister, and I haven’t crossed any lines unless sending a cat meme to her. But the girl I matched with already feels uncomfortable with the idea of me even texting her sister, which I understand. Maybe because of jealousy or she’s just possessive in a friend or bf way and Because of the flirting and sexting we had, I know that pursuing or even considering her sister would be awkward and probably wrong.
I’m not planning to act on anything. I just can’t shake the feeling that I connected with the wrong person first, and that one early choice closed a door permanently.
So… AITA for feeling this way, even if I don’t plan to do anything about it?
NTA – it’s probably best to discontinue the relationship. Not necessarily because of the sister, but because you aren’t that into her.
It would be bad form to pick up with sis , so move on and match with someone new.
Yep we aren’t even in a relationship yet and to be honest haven’t met în person yet either… but been talking for a good month everyday . I think mentioning to be strictly friends would fit better or ?
NTA. Be honest about the mismatch, first with the first. Then, have an open and honest conversation with her sister. How does SHE feel about it? If both of you are interested but it makes the first sister uncomfortable, that’s now an internal family issue, not yours.