Yesterday, after waiting almost an hour for my dad after work (He drives me home, as he works less than a mile away from me, to save on gas and insurance, etc.), then having to walk to his work and be driven by one of his clients to pick up his truck, my brother called, saying he’d been in a small accident. On the way to check on him, I asked my dad if he could drop me off at home real quick, since it was on the way. My dad said by even asking, I was being selfish. My dad said if he had dropped me off, he would’ve missed talking with the cop that had been there. It ended up being another 30 minutes until we got home. I get why he couldn’t, but AITA for even bringing it up?
In my opinion: YTA
Are you 3? Your brother got into an accident. It took an extra 30 or so minutes. You can’t amuse yourself while your dad(who is doing you a favor) checks on your brother….
And not being concerned for a family member, small accident or not, makes you a selfish AH.
YTA No reason to say anything else
It’s that obvious
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YTA. Stop acting like a spoiled baby
I feel like I need more info.
What was the accident? How old are you and your brother? Why did your dad need to talk to the cop? How far out of the way actually was it to drop you off?
YTA. You had no idea what was going on with your brother. While it ended up being ok before you have all the information every second counts.
YTA. Look, I get it. It was on the way but your brother was in an accident and your first thought was, “Whew, this could take time out of MY day.”
YTA
YTA *unless* you literally had to drive past your house — not past a street near your house, or past the highway exit for your house, but past your actual front door. If that’s the case, then you hopping out of the car would have been no big deal. If your request required even a single additional turn, YTA.
YTA-definitely a selfish move.
YTA
Suck it up, OP. Even though it was a minor accident, your brother could have been hurt or nervous dealing with the other driver and cops. He also needed a ride, probably. Kick back in dad’s car and play some games or listen to some music. An extra half hour out of your day is nothing.
This situation is how people learn life lessons in real time. They do or say things that are selfish, dumb or somehow inappropriate and others’ reactions are either taken to heart or are dismissed. Let’s hope OP learns from this one. Even mentioning how another person should make your life more convenient while they’re tending to someone in a more unfortunate situation is problematic. More than likely it’s a sign of immaturity that will improve with age and with more perspective.
There is a time and place for everything and saving you the inconvenience of having to wait 30 minutes is pretty minor in the scheme of things. If there were bad things that would happen because you were delayed, it MIGHT be worth mentioning to put pressure on your dad to consider your situation. It doesn’t seem that you were needing to rush home for an important exam or to tend to another living being in need. You were angry about having to wait another 30 minutes before you got home, to do what?…watch TV, talk to friends, have a snack?
And with all the responsibilities your dad is juggling between the needs that come with taking care of you, your brother, his wife/partner, his job, his own parents and his own needs, why do you suppose he should prioritize saving you from a 30 minute delay? In the scheme of things, it is clearly selfish. But you’re a kid and that’s how kids often start out until they learn to think beyond themselves.
YTA OP is 21 and/or has made a writing prompt. It was an additional 30 min. If you are truly upset and so “inconvenienced” then pay up for a vehicle, gas, and insurance. Yes you were selfish.