Firsly, I love dogs and that dog so much, but i have been watching him for past trips and they (my friends, dog owners) leave for few weeks at a time and I have a cat, so I have to bring my cat to my parents and then I have to live in their house to watch the doggo and well it’s draining. But now that I’ve refused to watch the dog on their next trip, I’ve became the bad guy, who doesn’t love their dog.
NTA – your friends are just using you.
NTA
You’re not obligated to be their dog sitter indefinitely, especially if it causes undue burden to you.
NTA. It sounds like watching their dog turns YOUR life upside down for a few weeks, and maybe they don’t realize that. Having to send your cat somewhere else is a huge hassle, and cats are easily stressed by changes in environment, much more than most dogs are.
Are you doing it for free? If they can afford to go on vacations, they need to figure out how to afford boarding for their dog. If they can’t, then…maybe they can’t actually afford their vacation 😂
yeah, for free, because I thought that’s what friends do (they can afford to pay for sure)! And again, I love that dog so much, but yeah sending my cat is stressful for him and for me, that’s why I don;t want to do it anymore.
NTA. The asked you for a favour, you are allowed to say no. And this should not be meet with you becoming the bad guy. It is their dog, they have to find some thing where to put him while the are on vacation. It is not your job.
If they keep talking bad about you, tell them something about the line ‘oh great, now I know, that I was just the free dog sitter for you. Thanks for showing me how much you appriciate my help, my time and my free will. I will reevaluate our friendship based on that new information, please don’t contact me for a while.’
Friends don’t ask friends to give up their life to take care of their dog so they can go on vacation. Friends pay a sitter or pay for a kennel. “NO” is a complete sentence.
NTA. Turn it back around on them. They’re the bad guys because they hate your cat. Why don’t they love your cat? etc.
I actually love this, I will try it 😀
NTA. You don’t owe them watching the dog. It’s become burdensome and you have to uproot your cat. They can board it or find someone else.
Ask them to drop there dog off somewhere for a few weeks while they stay at your house and watch your cat. See how they feel about an even trade.
You can love the dog and still say no. Weeks at a time is not a small favor, that’s a commitment. Boundaries don’t equal lack of love.
Hold up – they expect you to disrupt your life for WEEKS at a time – including relocating your own pet – so they can save some money on boarding?
Let me guess – they don’t pay you for this, do they?
The entitlement of some people is truly unbelievable.
NTA
NTA. Why are you disrupting your life/your cats life to watch their dog? Dog sitters are not cheap, but it’s their responsibility to figure it out.
NTA. So instead of being grateful for your past help they’ve decided you **owe** them that help?
There’s a reason doggy daycares is such a growing business sector. It’s a lot of work looking after a day, especially if it is not **your** dog and your house is not equipped for it.
Do they even pay or otherwise reward you for your weeks sacrifice on their behalf?
Do they do you similar large scale favours?
If the answers are no then they under the mistaken impression that you are the unpaid help instead of a very kind and helpful friend.