I (29M) am currently dating my gf (26F), we’ve been dating for a year last week. I’m wondering if it’s weird that I still have my ex-gf’s text thread with me while in my current relationship.
For context, I broke up with my ex a few months before I met my current gf. I initiated the break up with my ex, and it was amicable. Other than normal texts, there was some sexting and pictures as well. And the last time we texted was her wishing me a happy birthday some months after breaking up.
My current gf has some insecurities rooted from past abusive relationships. She’s brought them up to me before, and after talking about them, I deleted old messages in social media with other past relationships/hookups because I don’t want her to worry if she saw them (also to note they were years old). However, this reminded me about the texts with my ex.
I love my gf very much and care for her deeply, and I haven’t thought much about my ex unless my gf asked about past relationships. I’m just wondering if it’s weird that I still have those texts even though I’m in a loving relationship.
Just save the nudes and delete everything. You know that’s the whole reason for saving it! LOL
Bro you’re the asshole here smh
GFY!
Just delete it and move on.
You are not the AH.
Devil’s advocate . . . if the texts are nothing to worry about, why are you debating with yourself what to do–why don’t you just delete them? I ask this question because I know that is what my wife would ask me–and the fight would be on.
The flipside . . . if your current discussions / relationship with your ex are perfectly appropriate, and those texts are part of your past, being asked to delete them to accommodate your g/f insecurity would be indicative of AH behavior on your g/f’s part. I understand why they might make her uncomfortable, and I understand why you might be perfectly agreeable to deleting them if her comfort is more important to you than keeping the texts. And imo there would be nothing wrong with that.
But, your past is your past, it formed who you are today, and those texts are memories/mementos from a period of time/experience that was part of your development, including how to be a great b/f. So I would be more concerned about dating someone who made his/her insecurities your problem, including asking you to erase part of your history.