For my GF (20) bday I (21) got us tickets to see Bruno Mars, that was three weeks ago. Now she just texted me and said she wants to bring her dad too because he also likes Bruno Mars. I have no problem with her dad as we get along very well and often talk about sports, but I said I feel like this is kind of an us thing. But she’s like no no it’s ok he wouldn’t sit with us and he wouldn’t really be with us at all during the concert and I really don’t want him to come and now she’s upset that i’m saying no and idk what to do help 🫠
NTA. That being said, it’s for her birthday so there shouldn’t be any harm in her father going since it would make the birthday girl happier.
YTA
It’s her birthday, and that’s what she wants. What’s the big deal? Show some grace for HER birthday.
If you don’t, she spends the night a little pissed you said no, so night is not great anyways.
Kinda. Why is it a big deal? He isn’t going to sit with you or hang out with you. He just wants to see bruno mars and wants to use his daughter as an excuse to be there. Why is it an issue? You understand you don’t have the right to say who goes to a concert right and that it is her birthday, right? I understand you bought her the tickets as a birthday gift which was kind.
YTA, he’s not even going to sit with you
Just suck it up because its HER birthday. You can express yourself later, but its her day. Hey, she will want something that is $$$…day will save the day, lol
YTA.
It’s her birthday! It’d be one thing if this was for your anniversary or even your birthday. But it’s for HER birthday.
Also, it doesn’t sound like you’d even be interacting with her dad beyond maybe the ride there and back? He won’t be sitting with you and I don’t see any mention of where she’s asking you to help pay for the ticket or anything.
This just isn’t the hill I’d die on, but what do I know, I’ve only been with my husband for 20 years.
YTA and this kind of selfish thinking is what ends relationships. It’s literally her birthday.
She is basically wanting to carpool with her dad to a concert. I don’t see the harm in that, but it’s OK if you don’t want to do that on a date.
But it is her birthday, and the whole point here is supposed to be for you to make her happy on her birthday. And if giving her dad a ride to the concert will make her happy then you should do it.
Otherwise, what? You take her to a concert and you fight all the way there and all the way back and sit in your seats with your arms crossed the whole night, not talking? Sounds fun.
Did you give her BOTH tickets as a present? If so then the tickets are hers and she can take her dad instead of you.
You do what makes your girlfriend happy on HER birthday. It’s not like her dad is regularly there on your dates or anything. YTA
Not only are YTA you’re foolish. You WANT a girlfriend that has a great relationship with and love for her father. Trust me. If they don’t they’re gonna cause you a world of grief.
YTA – Your GF’s birthday is not an “us” thing. It’s HER birthday. If she wants her dad to be with her on her birthday, then she should be able to bring her dad along. Who appointed you the gatekeeper over how she gets to spend her birthday? When it’s your birthday, you can decide to make it an “us” thing.
It’s her birthday, so if she wants dad to come too, then she should pay for the extra ticket, but suck it up
YTA, it’s meant to be about HER day
It’s not an “us thing” if your gf does not want it to be an “us thing”.
What are you even trying to win here? It is her birthday. Let her have fun with dad included.
Imagine the bf points you could have won if you did not make a deal about this. Now you have to say sorry.
YTA