I (22F) was hanging out with my friend and her (21F) other friends who I don’t know, when she brought up an acquaintance of hers and said to me, “She’s an alcoholic, so you probably know her.“ Implying that I’m an alcoholic.
I barely drink at all. I only accept if someone offers me wine or champagne at a social gathering, which happens maybe once a month. I have never been drunk in my life or even had more than a glass at a time.
I said, “Why would you think that I know her because she’s an alcoholic? I’m not an alcoholic. I hardly even drink.” She rolled her eyes at me and said, “Of course, I’m sureee you’re not.” As if I’m some kind of addict in denial. I’ve never even had a drink in front of her. I don’t know where this audacity came from, but she made her other friends all think I have some kind of alcohol issue, which is infuriating.
I would not drop the issue, and she said, “Oh my god, it’s not that deep. Move on already.” and her other friends started defending her as if I’m insane or something and ruining the vibe.
NTA …………….. she didnt imply you are an alcoholic, she stated you are and you are not. her reaction to you correcting her only added fuel to the fire. I dont know if this person is actually a friend after this.
They aren’t
NTA
Maybe she wanted to use you to cover her own problem with alcohol.
nta. sounds like this is not actually a friend to you, and if i were you i’d be wondering exactly what kind of things she’s been telling these people about you.
best avoided!
Nta, she’s a weirdo you dont need to talk to her anymore
“You must probably know XXXX because he’s an asshole” – NTA
NTA
Time to find a new friend and make sure this one knows you think she’s an asshole and why she’s an asshole, cause we all know she is. The only reason to say that is if you drink a lot, hang out at bars a lot, or WORK in a place where you’d likely see that person…. Like a bartender or service clerk at the local liquor/beer/package store.
NTA
She lied and insulted you. She’s not your friend
NTA. No friend of mine would act like that.
Nta. She is not a friend.
NTA – at best (and it’s not very best) is this was her ‘joke’ that she randomly chose you as the butt of.
NTA
“Bless your heart, you’re projecting again aren’t you?”
Or
“Shhh. We said we wouldn’t talk about that or I’ll bring up your drug use”
NTA, you’re not overreacting. Try saying “Oh, you know so and so, they’re addicted to drugs, so I’m sure you do” and see how she likes it. If she argues, just say, “Well, apparently I’m an alcoholic, so I thought we were just labelling each other.”
NTA. Get her some leaflets and signpost her to a sex addiction clinic and info about STDs.