FOR MORE CONTEXT- fiancé and I have been together for over 10yrs. There has been a lot of drama surrounding the best man and now ex’s relationship such as DV and how said ex had treated the best man. Fiancé and everyone else do not like said ex.
Also, we are currently over capacity for the wedding and needing to cut numbers due to this.
My fiancé (28M) and I (28F) have been reviewing our final guest list. We have been together for over 10yrs. The best man (fiancés twin brother) was dating someone for a couple years, even had a home together, but broke up two years ago. Recently the best man started hooking up with said ex, however has not DTR (defined the relationship). Said ex and I didn’t get along when they were first dating. The ex has been extremely rude to me over the years. In talking about our final guest list, I wanted to set the boundary that we weren’t giving plus ones to anyone unless they were in a serious relationship. My fiancé feels strongly that if the best man wants to bring this person then he can, regardless of relationship status. AITA if I don’t want to give the best man a plus one because I don’t want someone I dislike at our wedding?
YTA. I know it’s your day, but either everyone gets a guest or nobody gets a guest, unless said guest has actively hurt someone.
YTA it is not only your wedding and this isn’t about your family member so your fiance should get the final say on this. There will be other people there so just don’t interact with her. It’s not like you have a valid reason besides you “don’t like” her
yta. best man gets to bring a date. grooms twin gets to bring a date. omg.
YTA, is this really the hill you want to die on with your husbands literal twin? Come on
YTA. Give the bestman a plus one. Or he may try and bang all the bridemaids, mother of the bride, any other guests.
YTA
YTA.
You know that is your husband marriage too right??
“If I don’t give”
Oh future hubby open your eyes
YTA
YTA. Don’t judge others’ relationships when you’re asking them to spend time and money to celebrate yours. It’s tacky. Anyone with a partner gets to bring them.
It’s your future husband’s brother, and he wants him to have a plus-one. This is just making you look petty and tyrannical.
YTA
YTA. This is your husband’s best man and twin brother. Your husband makes the rules on this one. Get over your petty differences with this woman, as she’ll probably be family some day.
Yes. YTA. That’s your fiancé’s twin, and you cannot decide who the plus ones are. Not giving a plus one to a best man, family member, and twin — that would be extremely rude and such bad etiquette. wonder why the twin’s girlfriend doesn’t like you?
YTA, it is the most basic of etiquette to invite the best man’s partner or plus one. And if the best man is the groom’s brother, even more so!
This is not your personal party, this is the marriage of TWO people of which you are are one.
Start properly, with an adult, considered action, ie giving the plus one, or rather butting out of your fiancé ‘s desire to do so.
Chances are you will hardly be aware of her presence anyway.
You’re going to tell your fiancé that his best man – *and twin brother* \- can’t bring a date to the wedding?
You’re making up a “serious relationships only” rule instead of being honest with your fiancé?
YTA for both of those.