**AITA for getting mad at my mum over a TV fight? (17F)**
Okay so this sounds stupid but it blew up.
I was watching TV first. My older brother (22M) came in and wanted to watch his football match. I said no because I was already watching something.
He tried grabbing the remote. I wouldn’t let go. He literally dragged me across the floor trying to take it. The remote broke.
My mum sided with him and said he’s watching his game. She didn’t really say anything about him dragging me. She just kept saying she’d buy food to calm everyone down which honestly annoyed me more because that’s not the point.
She fixed the remote and gave it to him and he watched his match anyway.
I got really mad and said I wasn’t going to school unless he apologised. I already hate school and feel stuck there, so this just made everything worse.
Now my mum is annoyed at me and my brother doesn’t care.
AITA for reacting like this?
Getting an education is your ticket out of that situation. You’re cutting off your nose to spite your face by not going to school. That being said, your brother is an ass/arse and your mother is enabling him.
ESH
Brother for being an ass and a bully, you were there first
Mom for siding with him
You for using it as an excuse to skip school
You and your brother are way too old to be acting like this. ESH.
The main person that is hurt by you skipping school is you. It doesn’t hurt your brother at all. He doesn’t care. It will annoy your mother. It’s extremely extremely immature YTA
Is there another TV where you live ? It would be great. You don’t go to school for your Mum but for you. Get back to it you are punishing yourself.
ESH. You need your education, much as you hate it. You get that education. Maybe you do post-secondary. Either way, you get out of your current situation. Your mom and your older brother are adults, though, so they should treat you better.
😂😂😂 oh no, you don’t go school, how your brother will survive
I’m going to give you what I hope is a little tough love judgement, OP, and I hope you read the reasoning.
ESH.
What, exactly, does you not going to school solve here? Is it that your mother is stuck with you at home now and you’re going to make her life miserable? Is it that you’re going to watch TV all day once your brother’s match is done? What, exactly, does this threat accomplish if no one cares what you do about it? Does your mother care enough about school to somehow be upset that you don’t go?
Your mother is uncaring. Your brother is loutish. We accept both of those as given, from your account. But is your threat not to go to school just a threat that they have to spend more time with you? Are you expecting your mother to see you as somehow more mature with this? It’s such a remarkably ridiculous threat. It literally only hurts you and cannot and will not get you want you want, now or in the future. It’s empty yelling, and I can’t give you a pass for that.
First, if your mom was able to fix the remote that quickly and on her own, it didn’t truly break. My hunch is, the battery cover came off or something.
Second, how does you refusing to go to school retaliate against other people? That doesn’t punish anyone else, which makes it nothing more than a temper tantrum a pouty toddler would throw because they’re too immature to connect the dots in a logical way.
Third, you’re not always going to get your way in life, and 17 is old enough to understand that without Reddit having to explain it to you.
YTA
YTA damn
YTA for skipping school over a stupid thing like this.
You’re not wrong to be mad about the situation but you’re only harming yourself.
ESH. All three of you are creating a toxic household that isn’t emotionally healthy for anyone. Go to school so you can eventually get a diploma and job and get out of there.
INFO
Who do you think not going to school hurts?
Why do you think it will make a point about TV access?
I suspect it’s about leverage. You can correct me (please do!), but I think you understand enough to know your schooling worries your mother, so you are trying to leverage her worry about school to leverage her response against your brothers actions with the TV.
So! Why do you think your mother worries about your education? Why do you think your mother will respond specifically to your leverage in the way you are hoping? Why do you think this is the most likely outcome of your school refusal?
Finally, you are 17. How long do you think refusing to attend school is a card you are able to play? What is the cost/consequences to you?
If you are going to play the leverage game OP, I suggest you learn to flowchart. The outcome options are the most important part of the game.
YTA, go to class. There are other kids who go through absolute hell every morning and still show up to school.