Me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F) have been together almost 3 years. I never go out to dinner high or tipsy, especially if I’m driving. I know how I get. I overthink and get anxious, so I usually just stay sober. But she wanted me to smoke before dinner tonight, so I did.
We stopped at Marshall’s first, I bought her some hair stuff, everything was cool. No tension at all. Then we pull into LongHorn and I tell her I want to park over by Five Guys because it’s an easy spot. I drive an F-150, and yeah I was high. Not gone, but high enough to feel it. When I’m high I don’t like tight parking spots because I start second guessing everything.
She starts pointing out other spots and they’re tight. I’m telling her they’re tight. I’m also telling her I’m high and I just want an easy pull-in spot. There was this end spot she really wanted me to take but there was a pile of snow pushed up in it so it wasn’t level. It honestly looked better for a small car, not a truck. I tried to line it up and I could already tell it wasn’t about to be smooth, so I said forget it.
That’s when she starts getting irritated. Saying we should’ve taken her car because it’s smaller. Then when I park where I feel comfortable she starts saying it’s illegal, we don’t have time for tickets, someone could hit my truck, etc. There were other trucks parked there. Yes anything can happen, but it just felt like extra commentary. Especially when she’s the type to run into a store and park wherever for “just 10 minutes.”
I tell her straight up I’m parking here because I’m high and I’m not about to squeeze this truck into a tight snowy spot. She says she could’ve done it even if she was high. And she probably could, she drives better high than I do. But it felt unnecessary to say. Like what does that change right now?
At that point I’m annoyed because she’s basically been backseat driving the whole time and I feel like I’m explaining myself clearly. So I snap and say it’s not a competition. She has this habit of turning stuff into a competition sometimes. I got immature and started ranting about how there are things I’m better at and it doesn’t matter. Then I said something stupid like she can’t even do 8 push-ups and I can.
She hit me in the chest and told me to take her home.
I know the push-up comment was childish. I apologized for that immediately. But when we got home she said I wasn’t being clear. That’s the part that’s confusing me. I said multiple times I’m high, I don’t feel comfortable, I want an easy spot for this big truck. What else am I supposed to say?
Was I completely wrong here? I get that I escalated it with the dumb comment, but was she not wrong at all for pushing it and comparing like that?
I’m genuinely trying to figure out if I’m missing something. I’m high I need something easy for this big ass truck
ESH. You for driving while high and her for encouraging you to do it.
YTA, she’s the ah, and you’re the biggest AH for driving high. Don’t put other people at risk because you can’t function.
ESH. She never should’ve encouraged you to get high before you drove anywhere and you shouldn’t have driven anywhere. The rest of it doesn’t really matter. You both made AH moves. Ruining your Valentine dinner is beside the point.
YTA for driving high. She’s also the asshole for asking you to do so. Fucking enraging, both of you.
ESH but especially you for driving high. It gets people killed.
YTA for driving high. You’re putting everyone else’s lives at risk as well as your own. Stop being an asshole.
YTA for driving under the influence. 100%.
>But she wanted me to smoke before dinner tonight, so I did…and yeah I was high…I feel comfortable she starts saying it’s illegal, we don’t have time for tickets,
You know what else is illegal? Driving under the influence.
You and her both are ass holes for about 30 reasons.
1. You let your girlfriend talk you into doing something unsafe because you lack a spine (she knows this to be true as well due to the way she talks to you and punches you)
2. You drove while high
3. You don’t stand up for yourself at all and your girlfriend clearly doesn’t respect you in the least. This fight is a symptom of a much larger disease. You both should separate.
ESH you both sound extremely irresponsible. Don’t drive while high. Clearly you overestimate your control over yourself after smoking.
You can’t park, you can’t hold a conversation, but you can DRIVE high?? Stop being a massive AH. YTA.
YTA for driving high. If you’re too stoned to park then WTF are you doing driving down the street?
YTA for driving high. It ruined your night.
ESH. You both sound like a pain in the ass. Stay home and get high, don’t endanger other people with your bullshit.
If you’re too high to park, you’re too high to drive. ESH.