Went out to dinner tonight with several friends for a birthday dinner.
When our mains came out, our waitress eventually realized one member of our party hadn’t gotten their food.
She bent over backwards apologizing, but it’s a pretty open layout and she could be seen and heard berating the cooks and arguing with them. Okay, no one knows the whole story. Maybe this is the last straw and she’s just having a bad night. She brings it out shortly after, again overly apologetic.
But then she can be heard not too far behind us at the bar gossiping with the bartenders about how unacceptable it is for the cooks to forget a dish.
Our tab came and between my partner and I, it’s $117. I tip $1.00 and write on the receipt “you were kind to us but rude to the cooks :(“
The friend group was mixed, but I just feel like she over reacted on a minor issue that no one was even upset about.
EDIT; I’ll go ahead and take the YTA verdict and get the woman her tip. She did, however, have plenty of tips from individuals in our group. Between all of us, she wasn’t grievously put out. Either way, lessons learned. Thank you 🙂
YTA
YTA – i think you meant well but typically that tip would have been tipped out to the cooks too so you really just added on to them getting berated even if unintentionally
You are absolutely the fucking ass hole.
You refused to tip a woman for great service to did everything she could for you and because you heard a one sided story, which might I point out seemed to be her fighting on your behalf, you then took that as an opportunity to pocket money that deserved to go to this woman that served you well. You are a cheap person and are grabbing the first excuse you can find to behave as such. You should go back and tip her properly. I have worked in restaurants before and a lot of cooks are druggies and not great. I have cooked myself and have had the displeasure of working with such people.
So her made her life hard and you followed up by making it harder purely based on a suspicion. You should be ashamed.
YTA, you have no idea what their dynamic is. Do you hold everyone in your life to such high standards, or just the ones that you can make work for you for free?
YTA….
Yta so she worked hard for you but you didn’t like the way she alhad to correct he cooks, so you penalise her. Tell your friends that when you go out if the waitress does a great job you don’t like to tip. Then they can decide if they want to go out with you
Yta! Times a million.
YTA-entitled much, how rude of you!!
YTA – your waitress did all she could and was clearly frustrated with the people that caused this problem (worrying her tip may be affected). You saved $22 on a tip – congratulations! Sounds like you made up an excuse for not tipping. The tip was for her service, not what she had to say to others (you don’t know the history). You need to go back and tip your waitress properly.
YTA!!!!!
YTA – and a Doooooouche BAG! I hope you plan to go back to leave her a proper tip.
YTA
You were the rude ones.
For all you know this is a pattern of the same mistake from the cooks and it’s been affecting her livelihood because everyone else has been angry and taken it out of her tip. YTA, don’t affect a low wage employee’s income on behalf of people who can fight their own battles
YTA she did her job, the cooks didn’t. You penalized her for being frustrated, she is the face that have to take all the customers complaints.