So basically, as the title suggests, I live with my uncle’s house, my uncle and aunt both are typical conservative indian parents who doesnt allow any sort of interraction of my cousin with boys, as a matter of fact they even changed her school of this exact reason (was caught with a boy) and currently is in girl’s school, because she was caught using snapchat and having conversation with a boy, snapchat was supposedly deleted at that moment, but apparently its not, she opened up to me saying she now is in her 4th relationship at her new school, and making things worse she showed me her snapchat and her kissing the new guy at school. so shall I be very concerned about this and expose this to her parents, or am I being an asshole and invading her privacy, idk, and can’t think straight at the moment, in my opinion its bit too much for her age and should be stopped
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You have no reason to. Mind your own business.
Do not snitch on her.
Right now, she feels comfortable confiding in you about relationships and boys. You want to keep it that way, in case (god forbid) she ever needs to confide in a safe person about something bad. If you tell her parents, you won’t be someone she feels comfortable coming to if she’s assaulted, abused, or treated poorly.
YTA mind your own business
Kissing? YTA It honestly sounds like she has very controlling parents and while you think you are stopping this and it’s good for her, all you’re doing is making sure that when she turns 18 years old she’s cutting you all out of her life.
Mind your own fucking business. YTA.
yta?? leave her the fuck alone??
Wow major YTA.
Don’t tell her parents just make her feel safe talking to you and you give her advice because maybe she is just getting in relationships because she wants someone to be close to her and she can talk with them without being judged
YTA.
Why? Jealousy, need for control, upset? Not your place.
She’s confiding in you as a close friend, you’re mind really goes to where it’s going and not to be a friend?
YTA, this is normal for a 14-year-old
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Yes it is an invasion of her privacy. You would be enabling controlling abusive behaviour from her parents which would make you part of that controlling and abusive behaviour too.
If you are worried for her safety then talk to her so you can help her. But if you agree with her parents position then you are just perpetuating abuse.
Were you never 14?
She trusts you. That’s sacred. It also means you have a unique opportunity to help her be safe as she explores her feelings and instincts.
Adolescence is an important time for people to learn what they like AND DONT LIKE, and how to establish boundaries with people around their emotions, respect, and their bodies. She’s a person, and deserves to experience these things so she can learn and grow.
Advise her on how to stay safe, and how to recognize bad people. Keep her secret, and encourage her to talk to her family about things.
YTA
She trusted you with this information. This is completely normal for her age. If anything, this is the age where she can learn healthy relationships skills early. Instead of snitching on her, you can be there for her to let her know what is right and what’s wrong because it’s clear she doesn’t have that safe space with her parents. She is going to be in relationships anyways, it’s better for her to be safe & learn boundaries early on.
YTA and one day you’re gonna look back on this moment and either think “man I’m so glad I didn’t turn out like my parents” or “man that’s the last time we really were close”