We moved into a community a year ago. The gate door is always open which is ridiculous because there are children here and people get packages delivered. The gate is kept open with a rock, so one day I decided to just move the rock and put it somewhere the rest of the community couldn’t find it in hopes people would start closing the door.
The door was closed for a few until a doorstop showed up. Obviously wanting to have the door closed, I took the doorstop and just put it in my house for awhile hoping the door would stay closed and everyone would just move on.
Well, this did not work. 😅 Next thing I know someone who lives by the gate wrote a note asking for the gate to stay open because it “shakes her house” and is loud when it slams. This is obviously completely unreasonable so we just keep closing the door and moving the rocks that show up.
Eventually we got tired of moving things all the time, so we just gave in and left the door open. In December, someone took one of our packages and opened it and left it in front of the complex. This set off a fire of rage, so of course I started closing the door again. I can’t believe a package was tampered with here. I live in an upscale downtown suburb and I don’t pay $1000/month in HOA fees to have a package opened without my consent!
Despite my best efforts, the door continues to stay open because of that nasty woman’s note. I have a child! Can she not see how dangerous it is to leave the gate open!?
Anyway things came to a head last weekend when we were taking the bins out. She asked if we’d be willing to keep the door open for her comfort. Of course we aren’t! I truly can’t believe she would think her comfort comes above the safety of my child! I got pretty angry because this is clearly a completely unreasonable request. And we pay so much into the HOA, why not just ask them to rearchitect the gate and her fence and balcony?? This seems so obvious to me.
When I left the house this morning, the door was open. You know I slammed it shut as loud as I could to make a point. When my DH and I took our baby for a walk this afternoon, it was open again, so I just threw the rock at her door and slammed the gate again.
Tonight she confronted claiming we had “never met” to which I reminded her we met last weekend. She gave us a letter telling us she was sorry to inconvenience us and that she has been closing the door since meeting us last weekend, but others in the community are propping it open. She said she genuinely didn’t know it was so troublesome to us. But how could she not know when the rocks and doorstoppers kept disappearing?? She also left her number in case we want to talk, but there’s no way I’m going to talk to that woman that’s caused me so much angst for so long.
I also don’t believe her, but AITA??
“But how could she not know how I felt when I spent all this time never ever speaking to her or telling her how I felt?”
YTA – grow up and learn to communicate like an adult.
YTA. There are children everywhere and almost everyone everywhere gets packages delivered. I might have questioned whether or not you were the asshole when you just kept closing it, although you were quite passive aggressive and rude about it. But intentionally slamming the door? Yeah, YTA. Get over yourself and be considerate of the people around you.
ESH
Are any of you adults?
I have no idea what kind of gate you are talking about. Why didn’t you explain this better?
Why would an adult throw rocks?
Why didn’t you have a real discussion about this the first time you noted the problem? Maybe figure out how to keep the door shut but not have it slam?
ESH. talk to you HOA to get them to monitor the gate better, that’s what you pay for. And don’t throw literal rocks, are you a toddler?
YTA
How you handled the whole situation seems petty in the beginning and childish in the end. Please consider acting like an adult and using conversation instead of spite.
How are children at risk if the gate is left open?
I think you’re petty. And YTA.
U ok hun? What else is going on in your life? Are you diverting emotion onto this woman from someone, something else as a safety valve?
YTA. Talk like adults. You could have rung her bell and told her. Even she communicated better than you, though not by much. She wrote you a letter. You just keep throwing rocks and removing doorstops and then assuming she must know how she upset you.
Look, I get it. The door is there for a reason and your HOA is high and you expect security. BUT you also sound completely unhinged and passive aggressive.
Put your big girl pants on and talk to the HOA about replacing it with a soft closing door and ask if they can communicate to residents that’s it should remain closed due to package theft and what not.
YTA for living in an HOA. Thanks for driving up costs for everyone else
pinning your kid for the reasoning behind the gate is fucking adorable. YTA
YTA i hope she takes legal action against you for throwing a rock at her door. thrown rocks are more dangerous to children than open gates
Whats especially egregious is that you only recently moved to this community. They had a system and rather than learn the system, or bring up your suggestions using your WORDS, you just said fuck it and stole their things.
And when she tries to communicate with you, you shut her down. You are the least mature person in this scenario.
why are you afraid of the outside world anyway?
God i hope this is just a shitposting rage bait post and not real …
If this is real then YTA.
Zero attempt to communicate with your community when you are obviously the odd opinion out. Jumped straight to being insufferable, passive aggressive and clutching your pearls.