My boyfriend on valentines day tells me he’s gotten all vulnerable with me by showing me his music he made when he was 17. It’s him rapping and I don’t really have an ear for rap at all. I put a blanket over my head so he couldn’t see me cringing but he asked for a critique and I had nothing nice to say or not anything he wanted to hear, at least, and has gone off. He says I have a habit of putting down most of my old boyfriend’s music which is true because MOST of my old boyfriends and current boyfriends music makes me cringe. What was I supposed to say?
YTA. If you don’t have an ear for rap then you shouldn’t comment on it. I actually know about rap music but I wouldn’t start putting down someone’s efforts.
I’m sorry you were both sitting there listening to his music then you randomly flung a blanket over your head?
what is your type of music?
YTA.
Based on your own description, YTA
He’s probably not that great, but you admit yourself you know nothing about that kind of music, and your response was kind of kneejerk and cruel. He said straight up that he was being vulnerable with you, and you just shat all over him.
I lowkey hate the whole concept of treating “cringe” like it matters. If I could wipe one word out of the world’s vocabulary as it’s currently used, it would be that and no other is even close.
Info: How old are you guys…. Can’t imagine anyone over 25 not being embarrassed enough themselves of rap they made at 17…..
This should have been a white lie. You should have told him he did a great job.
YTA. The polite, kind, and girlfriend thing to do would have been to simply say you’re not into rap.
Am guessing you are both really young and immature… but anyway, putting a blanket over your head when someone asks you to listen to to a song they wrote then saying you can’t think of anything positive to say – YTA
YTA. It wasn’t about whether the rap was good. He was being vulnerable and sharing something personal from when he was 17. Putting a blanket over your head and cringing is humiliating. You don’t need to love it, but you do need basic kindness.
YTA a white lie to save the feelings of someone you care about is the norm
How many ex bfs who have music do you have? Weird pattern there
YTA
“It’s cool to see the evolution of your music throughout life.”
“I liked when you said _____”
“This is a good song for _______”
“It reminds me of ______ ”
Like you don’t have to critique it. If it makes you cringe and you know that through experience, you need to say, “I am really not great at reacting to things people make in front of them, trust me. Will you send it to me instead so I can listen to it later?”
“Honestly, this isn’t my style, I don’t want to discourage you, I’m just not the right audience for it.”
“You should keep exploring your sound. I think you’re on to something, but it doesn’t feel like you yet.”
Encouraging enough to not be mean, but firm enough that you won’t get stuck listening to someone else’s stuff forever.
I had a friend ask me to watch their stream, from their phone, in front of them, on speakerphone, with their camera off. So… they wanted me to watch voice over gameplay in a loud room. The recording was 2 hours long. Im like BRO NO I ALREADY TOLD YOU 100X GET A CAMERA AND WHY TF ARE YOU MAKING ME WATCH THIS RIGHT NOW?!??
Instead: *politely watched 2ish minutes (which is still a long time!) Then said, “I still think you’d reach a wider audience if you had a camera. People like to see your reactions. Please, let’s not listen to audio out loud in public, it’s a little overwhelming right now.”
I mean yeah you’re probably totally the asshole here but I get it, I think it’s kinda silly he was all sentimental about his music from 17 years old but hey man to each their own. You gotta be nice about it though and apologize