Ive lived in my mothers house paying rent for nearly 15 years now. My brother moved back in with his child (putting his daughter in my room non master bedroom) taking over the master bedroom my grandma previiusly used. This happend 6 years ago. This was only supposed to be a temp solution untill they found a house. Today i kicked her out of my room for private time with my long distance partner and told him shes done staying in my room. She is 9 years old now. Hes now angry with me and making remarks about my personal life and my life. Am i in the wrong for kicking his child out of my room?
She lives in my room i a 27 yo man her uncle, her now 9 years old i pay rent to help my mother pay for the house payment, car payments. My brother and SIL do not pay rent and provide food occationaly and trash service somewhere in the line of 70$-80$ a month. They moved in with 8 cats and 3 snakes.
I have talked with my niece and affirmed that it is NOT her fault.
Update: she is being moved into her parents room. And im now being berated and belittled further.
Well you would of been an AH if you kept her in the room while you spent time with your partner, would of taken away her innocence too soon. NTA
Anyways its her fathers job to look after her, you are childfree so are entitled to your leisure time. Seems you already help your brother a lot if you had to kick her out.
NTA
His child can stay in his room.
NTA. If you can’t even get privacy in the house with your partner, it’s time to look at a new arrangement
I don’t get it.
You asked her to leave your room so you could have a private conversation. Why is that a problem?
She can go to her own room. She can go to any other room.
There’s something missing here
It seems that they share the room from OPs post
NTA she’s not entitled to your space. Children need to understand boundaries. What does it matter if you were on the phone with your partner, doctor, boss, or just wanted a nap. It is your space that you pay for. She is not your child and you don’t owe her your time/attention whenever she wants.
NTA! Nope! You pay rent for your room. You do not need to share, he can. This is ridiculous that he is being snarky.
NTA.
You’ve no obligation to share space with your nibling. You get to enjoy the privacy of your space as you wish.
If he wants to start remarking on life choices and circumstances, point out he’s a loser who can’t even get his life together to provide well for his child. Seriously, he thinks his child rooming with you is a long term solution? <smh>
Im just wondering why OP has put up with sharing a room with their niece for 6 years. That sounds awful for OP and the niece. Why tf isn’t that child in a room with her parents?
INFO: What on earth actually happened? This is written very confusingly. Why was your niece in your room?
OMG. All of you need to move out.
Good luck
Mother needs to make that decision. Sounds like she & OP have a mutually beneficial arrangement & she may not be able to afford house payment on her own.
Brother, SIL and niece need to move out, if not the brother and SIL should pay rent and pay their way.
ESH, everyone has accepted this situation for far too long. They need to move or you can.