I’ll keep this short.
So me and my friend have been friends for years do&’h mutual favours and whatnot, I have felt like he asks me for help excessively but my schedule is usually clear so I am willing to.
His mom is moving today. I get back from my family’s cabin super hungover around 11 in the morning. I then get a call at 12 saying “yo, OP my mom is moving remember how much she helped you over the years come help.” I tell him im not out for it then he says how “he’ll remember this when i need help” and how I should of helped him.
NTA – but better to shut your phone off, sleep off the hangover, and text back later when you feel good and say – hey, just got this….
They knew she was moving well before 12 on the day she was moving. No notice, no help. Sorry and NTA
NTA you could cause injuries by helping if you’re not well enough.
You are NTA
It doesn’t matter if your schedule is clear. Lack of planning on his part does not mean an emergency on yours.
Would it be kind to help? Sure. But you weren’t expecting it and it’s a crappy thing to spring on someone with no notice.
Alright thanks thats pretty much what I was thinking.
NTA – big things like moving are planned well in advance. If they needed your help, they could have told you in advance as well.
For real! Who calls up someone on the day of and tries to guilt trip the person into helping? An asshole.
NTA but your friend is for only asking you last minute and then holding it over your head that you’re not feeling up to it. I wouldn’t be asking this friend for favors/doing them favors anymore if they’re going to play games like that.
Thank you all, I have felt like ive been too much of a “yes” man. I will change.
Your friend also sounds hella manipulative too. It’s easy to turn into a yes man when you have a generous heart and a person who likes to take advantage of that. I know he’s been a buddy for a long time but I have a relative who’s very much like that as well. He can be very charming and fun but also uses that as a way to take advantage of people.
NTA. Many friends are seasonal, maybe his season should be over.
NTA. once a friend feels entitled to your help (especially if it’s not an actual emergency) and tries to guilt-trip you he’s just taking advantage of you
NTA, also favours between friends shouldn’t be transactional, to his comment that he’ll remember this when you need help says alot about him.