Firstly, I apologise for any spelling/ grammar mistakes as English is not my native language. Last year I had planned to do a lot of solo travelling for 2026 as I have only been abroad a couple times in my life but now I’m approaching my 30s I want to travel to more fancy places before I settle down and have kids. One of the trips I have booked is to the Maldives. Truly a once in a lifetime experience and something I have wanted to do since I was a kid. I have saved up a decent amount of money and have paid a deposit and I will be going to in early 2026. This trip which I had planned for a long time has never been an issue with my family until quite recently my sister has said that I shouldn’t be going to the Maldives as this is where she went okay her honeymoon. I never thought that going here because she had her honeymoon there was an issue and she nor anyone else ever previously expressed that this would be an issue. Now that I have paid a non refundable deposit suddenly it has become a huge problem that I’m going to the Maldives. She sent me a text message saying that if I don’t cancel my trip then she will cut me off. My parents (who never had an issue before) are now taking her side and saying it’s really hurtful that I’m going. I just need to know whether I’m in the wrong? Am I the asshole?
**EDIT: Thank you for all the replies! I just wanted to add that I’m not going to the exact same place as her. I’m staying at one of the cheaper local islands and she had her honeymoon at one of the more expensive resort islands.**
**2nd Edit: To clarify, my parents are taking her side because they think what I’m doing is hurtful and there are plenty of other countries I can go to.**
NTA that doesn’t even make any sense, why would she care? Your sister is being super narcissistic.
NTA. She doesn’t own the Maldives because she honeymooned there.
NTA. You don’t get to block off an entire country for forever just because you went there on your honeymoon.
Literally even if you stayed in the exact same hotel and exact same room as her and her hubby it shouldn’t be an actual problem for your sister.
What a weirdo she is.
The thing is my not even staying at the same place. I’m staying on one of the cheaper local islands where as she went to one of the expensive resort islands 😭 it’s really frustrating how my parents are now taking her side. I just think this whole thing is that ridiculous that I have to post it on reddit lol
Find out where she’d love to travel to and have your honeymoon there first. Now she can never go, because that’s the rule she made up in her selfish logic
NTA.
I didnt know your sister owned the Maldives
If they cut you off just smile and wave.
My christmas card in 2026 would be me in a beach in the Maldives having the time of my life.
“I went to a place for my honeymoon and now I own that place forever and no one in my family can go there ever.” Yeah, that totally makes sense. OP’s sister is very reasonable. /s NTA
NTA. Ask your sister why she doesn’t have a problem with the thousands of tourists who visit the Maldives. She isn’t in charge of the Maldives. Ignore your sister and go.
Is this for real?! Your sister must be insane. No sensible person would declare a place off-limits simply because she honeymooned there.
> She sent me a text message saying that if I don’t cancel my trip then she will cut me off.
Take her up on the offer. You don’t need anyone so absurdly unreasonable in your life.
NTA
NTA; your sister and parents are being beyond ridiculous. As far as I’m concerned, you can even stay at the same resort/hotel and book the same room as your sister did.
i genuinely thought i had a shit family, but then i keep reading posts like these and I realize maybe it’s not that bad.
NTA, these people suck.
NTA. It sounds like “I honeymooned in the Maldives” is a huge part of her identity, for whatever ridiculous reason. She is being controlling and unreasonable, and so are your parents. Call them out for being the toddlers they are and say “If our relationship means so little to you, then I guess I’m better off without you. I will, however, send you a postcard from the Maldives.”
I wonder how your sister and parents will explain your absence at family gatherings?
“Well, she took holiday in the same country as her sister took her honeymoon. Of course we had to cut her off! Can you imagine? What was she thinking!?”
Did she… buy the Maldives while she was there? Does she own it?
NTA. Its ok to tell her she is ridiculous and then disengage.