I (21F) am part of a small group of friends planning a school filming trip out of town. We all agreed the bus would leave at 5 PM (literally the only way to get there on time.)
On the day of, two members (both in their early 20s) just went out to eat without telling anyone. We waited, assuming they’d be back quickly, but as 5 PM approached, we were panicking because the bus wouldn’t wait. Calls and messages? Ignored. Completely.
Finally, we found them just casually eating at a side vendor. We shouted that it was time to go, and they didn’t even bother to move. At that point, we had no choice: risk missing the bus or leave them behind. Given how tight the schedule was, we left.
Later, I saw them posting on Twitter about how we “abandoned” them and spamming our group chat calling us bad friends. Are you serious? We weren’t being cruel, we were stuck in a real logistical nightmare because they refused to follow a plan everyone agreed on.
I’m furious because it wasn’t out of spite, we tried everything to get them moving. But now I’m being painted as the villain for doing what had to be done. AITA?
You already know the answer. Why ask?
Seriously, half these posts are so clear people have way bigger problems if they truly dont know the answer
NTA. They knew what they were doing, if they didn’t see anything wrong with it they would have told you where they were going. It’s not fair for everyone else to miss the bus because they went to go eat.
Nta. You didn’t abandon them. You tried to go back for them and get them to come. They didn’t. That’s on them for not following through with the plan.
Info: Do you mean you left them in the destination city or do you mean you left them at home and went on the trip?? Either way, NTA… But I still was wondering if they were stranded in another city/state/country or did you basically leave them behind at home??
They were just left behind at home. Not stranded anywhere, just… didn’t follow the plan.
Yeah, your for sure NOT an ah. They basically missed the bus cause they decided a meal was more important.
if the schedule was tight then it was tight, you chose the project over their ego. Yeah correct move
NTA
They knew the bus was leaving at 5pm. If they didn’t make it their business to be on the bus when it was leaving, that’s on them. It sucks to suck.
people who call you bad friends after messing up are just allergic to accountability
NTA, they were aware of the schedule. They should have started to eat earlier to be finished by 5, bad timing on their behalf
What bizarre behaviour on their part. NTA
NTA. They knew the time, they’re adults, they FAFO when they made their choices. I don’t understand why they didn’t grab their stuff and come with you when you tracked them down and shouted a warning, but you didn’t do anything wrong. Some people are just like this, unfortunately.
NTA they’re not children. Real life doesn’t stop just for them and your guys plan doesn’t revolve around them. It’s selfish and bratty behaviour.
You simply left so you could enjoy your outing that’s all there is to it. Just remind your bus was at 5pm and those kept refusing to move and maybe ask why they did that if you all planned to leave for 5pm? Get the actual answer from them – it pretty much will boil down them being self centred and selfish