I go to the same college as 2 of my best friends since childhood. Let’s call them Emma and Ruby. Currently I have a single room in a different dorm building than them, Emma and Ruby are in a triple with a girl they have become friends with. We have talked about possibly applying for an apartment together. I had mainly talked with Emma about this but occasionally talked with Ruby about it too. A few weeks ago I was talking to them and they said they no longer wanted to get an apartment. They liked the dorm building they were in and didn’t see a need to move.
Today housing registration for next year became available and I texted them asking if they’re sure they don’t want to apply for an apartment. Apparently they had changed their minds and decided to apply for an apartment, just not with me. Emma told me that that morning one of their friends texted Ruby and asked if they wanted to get an apartment together and Ruby immediately said yes.
I told them that that was kind of a bitchy move and that if they didn’t want to live with me they should have just said that. They said I was being unreasonable and that they never fully agreed to an apartment anyways so it doesn’t matter.
Am I the asshole for being upset with them?
I get why you’re upset, but it seems like they made their decision with Emma’s friend out of the blue. It might be worth talking to them and expressing how you feel without accusing them of being dishonest. Friendships can get messy, especially when it comes to housing and living arrangements.
NTA, get better friends. These friends obviously don’t like you.
The three of them just bonded over the school year, and you were seen as a third wheel so to speak.
Not a great move, but not the end of the world either.
This basically happened to me before my senior year of college. I stayed in my single and it was the *best.* No roommate drama, no worrying about who has to take out the garbage, and all that BS.
Did I miss not living in an apartment with friends? Sure. That might have been a fun experience to have. But all told a single was great. And three of the women I was supposed to live with ganged up on the fourth.
NTA