I play lead guitar in a shitty school of rock band, and last year we played this general rehearsal that was open, so people can just come in and see how the classes work and stuff, and so I couldn’t stop locking eyes with this girl outside the window who was easily the most breathtaking person I’ve ever seen in a while. I saw her after the rehearsal, but I didn’t have the courage to ask her for her instagram. At our gig she actually approached me acting incredibly shy and nervous to ask for my Instagram like we were meeting for the first time. I thought it was sweet and gave it to her, but once we started texting she admitted she had already found my private account weeks before by stalking the school of rock account I go to, even ending up on my parents’ Instagram pages just to piece together who I was before she finally worked up the courage to talk to me. She told me she really liked me and wanted to go out, but at the time, hearing that, kinda creeped me out. I lashed out and was mean, telling her she was acting like a creepy stalker and that I wasn’t looking for a relationship, before blocking her after we had a dumb conflict. Looking back, I feel like a total asshole because she was probably just being honest about the crush on me. To be completely real, I really thought she was stunning and I really liked her… I’ve dated other people since then but nobody compares to her, we talked so nicely and she was really good looking, we even went out a couple times with friends, and I deeply regret the harsh things I said. I was way too cold to a girl who was clearly just bold enough to find me, and now I’m wondering if unblocking her to apologize and ask for a second chance makes me a hypocrite or if I’ve already burned the bridge for good.
Call and apologise
YTA Unblock her and apologize. And suck it up if she tells you off. You deserve it big time.
YTA. She was being awkward and you overreacted. But here’s a tidbit of information for you. Women doing research into someone they like before actually approaching them isn’t particularly out of the ordinary. A lot of people won’t admit to it, but it’s not abnormal. Try not to be too surprised.
YTA she’s clearly shy and if your socials are publically connected to each other it’s really pretty normal these days to look at someone’s online presence when you have a crush on them. i say this as someone who does this, and also as someone who’s had genuine stalkers more than once and has had to file a restraining order against one. was it awkward of her? yeah, and maybe it would’ve been better if she hadn’t told you she did that, but she was trying to be honest and genuine. best move would be to unblock, apologize, explain your point of view, and see where she wants to go from there